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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:iv a friend that iv known for years, and we had a drunken kiss a few months ago and since then he has been texting me every day. The problem is he has a gf. nothing physical has happened with us since we kissed. He said before he would leave gf and then he didn't. I get the feeling he tried to break up with her and it lead to a discussion to them making more of an effort together. Any way we didn't talk for a bout a week then but then again the texting started back and we still have the chemistry etc still there. My question is - if I took myself out of the equation and stopped the contact. will this make him decided once and for all what he wants one way or the other. as he is kinda keeping me on a string by flirting etc but at the same time I could walk away aswell as im not in love with him. So if I take myself out of the equation will this spur him to see how he really feels? im not counting on him splitting with her as either way its a win win for me as if he doesn't care that im walking away then he never cared anyway and I will be free then. I think he might be taking for granted that I will always be there....I know hes worried I will meet someone as he always asks me and joked about me being with fells. At this stage tho it needs to come to a head one way or the other. and he knows id never be his bit on the saide etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2013): Step out of the picture because you should not be there in the first place. It doesn't matter if nothing physical happened (and by the way kissing is something). Think about this a bit. Just really think. Put yourself in the shoes of the girlfriend. This guy is not being faithful to her, and you are not helping the situation. Don't think for a second that if he's doing this to her, he won't do it with you. Even if he does break it off with her, which isn't likely, your relationship would be based on a lie, cheating and there is nothing honorable about that at all. Go find a guy who is not attached and try and have some girl code. Karma is going to bite you in the butt big time. And why do you want a guy who puts you second? You have been second this entire time.I hope you learn from this...seriously. Move on.
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