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writes:I am completely confused. Completely! I've been getting close with this guy for the past month and a half. It's been one thing after another. First, I was hesitant because I thought he was still with this girl. Actually I still don't know whats going on with them, but my instinct is just telling me to go with it. So I am. We've had...encounters. Nothing sexual, but it was emotionally satisfying. Sometimes all you need is someone to hold you and make you feel safe. And honestly, I've been craving that. And he makes me feel exactly that way. The way he talks about us, the feeling is mutual. It's not like hes telling me what I want to hear, because my mind is telling me to be cool and not be too open. Its just in my past, I've been hurt, and its hard to trust. But he says all the right stuff, everything I feel inside, he says it about me. And I've been cautious about showing my true feelings. He's noticed this and he's asked me about it. We've talked about it, and he told me that if I wanted him to back off, he would, but he does feel the same way. So I tried to stay away from him, and when I do, its like there's something missing. He's also tried to keep his distance, but he said it was hard to. His exact words were, My day feels incomplete without you. I am in way too deep with this guy. And vice versa. But we still continue on. I honestly don't know whats going on with us. He calls me pet names, but at the same time, I'm his friend. So we're friends with benefits? I don't know what my question is. I think I'm just asking for a fresh perspective. Am i wrong to think that this relationship can go anywhere? Does it have potential? Could he be as serious about me as i am about him?
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reader, ilaila +, writes (19 January 2010):
The only way you'll know is if you talk to him about it. He seems like a very sweet guy. Let him know what you like about him and see if he's willing to give a relationship with you a try.
Hmmm...I need to follow my own advice :) Why does it seem so much easier to say than actually do.
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reader, DearlyDepartedDead +, writes (20 November 2009):
AwwYour relationship probably wont go much farther. He probably is serious about this. My boyfriend dated me as a friend, but he also called me pet names. Wait it out.
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