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male
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26-29,
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writes:Hi, I have been in a relationship for the last 6 months and we love each other very much but my girlfriend has recently stopped wanting to make love, we haven't done it for over a month. She says there is no reason, she just doesnt "feel like it". I do know that before she met me she had a one night stand, so she felt like it then... but why does she not feel like it with me. She swears she finds me attractive and I'm sure there is no one else.Please someone give me some answers.Thanks in advance.
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reader, minnie_me  +, writes (31 March 2009):
well your girlfriend has said that she loves you and her feelings are still the same, this means that there is something else wrong with her and the best thing you can do is just be there for her and eventually she will start having sex again she just needs you to support her at the moment. Good luck with everything!
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (31 March 2009):
Well you need to talk about it with her. 6 months is a very short time for your relationship to get to this stage in.
There could be several reasons.
1. Her feelings have faded but she loves you as a friend so doesn't want to let you go.
2. She is depressed about something else completely and this is a symptom.
3. You do not turn her on. That doesn't mean you aren't attractive but it might mean that she feels you want sex and not her. Feeling sexy is KEY to being turned on. If you romance her and kiss her and hold her and sex is just the cherry on the cake then she may be more in the mood. If you only make physical contact and tell her she's sexy when you want something then it's no wonder she's feeling a bit like your blow up doll.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (31 March 2009):
 For many people making love is about being in the right place within a relationship... Even if she's had a one-night-stand, she might want to be sure your relationship is serious before she gets too involved.
On the other hand, she might be experiencing health issues and discomforts she doesn't want to discuss.
Try to discuss things with her, encouraging her to be sincere about her motives, offer your support, show her you're ready to stand by her through anything.
She might just be stressed out with other things and just no in the mood for sex!
Whatever it is, if she loves you, she needs to learn to talk or it'll never get anywhere.
Good luck!
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