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writes:Hey, I really need some help, my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to lose my virginity to him and I said I'm not sure. The reason I said this is because I ready but I don't know what to do with myself down below and what to do during... Please help me quick thank you.x Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): Someday you might still think it was the wrong time looking back even if you were sure right now. So if you're not sure right now, then don't even consider it. Any BF that you lose for not having sex with him was a BF that you never really had in the first place. If he's not just using you, he'll wait as long as you want to wait. Like years.
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reader, kellibelli7  +, writes (31 March 2009):
 Personally I think you should wait. When you get older not only will you have a better understanding of sex but you'll be able to handle it better. It's not something you can take back and without the right person it can be...scary (not to mention slightly painful). You have lots of time for that, why start now?
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reader, guillaume +, writes (31 March 2009):
 Hi,
You are not ready. Firstly, you are underage, but even if you were old enough I would still say the same thing. Your question tells us that you are not ready. You need to just date your bf for the moment and see how things develop. To give your virginty to a guy means that you need to trust him and feel for him. wehn you have these secure feelings, you will natuarally want to let him make love to you. Just say you are not ready yet and see what his reaction is. If he walks away then that must tell you something about what he thought of you. Give someone your virginity when YOU are ready. Don't get presseured into it. Take care G xx
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reader, minnie_me  +, writes (31 March 2009):
you should only have sex if your old enough to start of with. your boyfrend knows your a virgin and should respect that you wont be as good as other girls and you mite not no what to do for the first time.you should only have sex if you are sure your ready for it if your not ready then just wait for a bit cuz you want the first time to be special. Good luck with everything!
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (31 March 2009):
 My dear, when you're ready to give yourself to the man you love, the love and desire you feel for him will give you the instinct to make love with him.
It's not something you learn through advice, but through experience.
First time love should be wonderful, but for most people who rush into it it's just fiddly and disappointing!
So if you're uncertain, get to know each other better, have fun together and meanwhile find out all you need about safe sex, get advice about relationships, etc.
Although sex can be playful, it is not a game, it comes with risks and requires committment, love, respect...
Don't through your virginity away just because you think you should.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 March 2009):
 Nope not going to help you quick. You are definitely not ready.
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reader, confused_0110 +, writes (31 March 2009):
first of all how old are you? and then if you are not sure then you really don't need to do it ! and if you are worried about not knowing what to do then well he knows you are a virgin and he knows that you don't have experience it will come to you naturally when you and if you do it! but if you are not sure then please don't do it
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