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*exwhizzy
writes:My girll friend does'nt come anywhere close to me..she does'nt even tell me that she loves me not even a text..but she obeys my words and commands but she's never told me that she loves me both face to face and in text...my real problem is that she does'nt come close to me at all.................am confused...................
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): OP, to tell someone you love them, and to actually show it are two different things. "I love you" is nothing but words if there's no actions to back it up. Also love can be shown in other ways than just the touchy feely sexual way. Respect, consideration and understanding go a long way to proving to a woman that you love her. Sex can be had with anyone, it means nothing in today's world as far as being an indicator that a person loves another.
On another note, there may be a more deeper issue to this situation. If you said you don't boss her around harshly, and you only expect her to extend you the same courtesy as you show her, then its unlikely she will feel resentment towards you. Maybe your maturity levels are different, where you can freely and comfortably display your affections for her, she may not be mature enough to even know or understand what love really is yet. In that case, this relationship won't work unless you communicate about her needs and wants, and if that is the case then you will have to decide whether you want to leave her and find someone more on your wavelength as far as maturity goes, or be patient with her while she gradually matures mentally and becomes comfortable with the whole displaying of affection.
Just a couple of thoughts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): just like others said you shouldnt be bossy with a girl...you should show her maximum respect and care ... she is with you but it seams that she is not happy,maybe she still cares about you but she wants some respect ...in order not lose her try to respect her and not order her ... maybe she will change .believe it or not there are other guys around that will show her respect and she will dump u...so be careful
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (18 March 2013):
 She obeys your words and commands? What. Like 'SIT' and 'FETCH'?
She's your girlfriend, not your slave or chattel. Treat her with some respect and as an equal and you might be surprised at the difference in her behaviour toward you.
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reader, Rexwhizzy +, writes (18 March 2013):
Rexwhizzy is verified as being by the original poster of the question @llifton........its not as if i command her harshly or disrespectfully...i do obey and respect her just as she does to me.....it's just that i have never touched her before not to talk of kissing or something else...that's the reason why i asked if she loves me
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): My guess is she's not happy being with you. Possibly (if) because you boss her about.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (18 March 2013):
 Did you just say she obeys your words and commands? That's more than likely your problem right there, bro. Women aren't dogs who should be obedient and follow commands.
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