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writes: I am a long distance relationship- was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years before he moved overseas in July. I hate doing the long distance thing but I'll be moving to be with him early next year. When he first went it took me ages to get used to not seeing him, and I missed him terribly. However, I eventually started going out and enjoying myself again..even though my boyfriend and I talk all the time I feel like i'm single. last week at a party I caught up with an old friend I kind of had a 'thing' with a few years ago, back in college. He was back in town for Christmas. There was instant chemistry, we were really drunk and almost slept together. I feel guilty that I cheated on my boyfriend, but the thing is that I will see this guy at a years eve party and I'm worried the same thing will happen again- and also because I'm looking forward to seeing him again but I know I shouldn't be. Also, I love my boyfriend but I'm starting to have doubts about moving to be with him and leaving my life here, but I think I will regret it if I tell him I don't want to. I know I want to be with him but I worry that things will have changed or I could be making a mistake. Unforntunately it's not finanicially possible for my boyfriend or I to visit each other before I go there. What should I do? My friend will be leaving town soon so I'm not expecting anything to go further there, but do I tell my boyfriend? And if I do have feelings for him (even if they are just physical) does it mean I don't really love my boyfriend?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (29 December 2006):
 Moving away is a big step and it is quite normal that you feel doubtful if you have not seen your boyfriend since July.
You are seeking elsewhere what you lack in our current relationship, physical contact. It is not fair on your boyfriend as he is miles away and there is nothing you or he can do about that until you see each other again.
If you really love your boyfriend, do not go to this party to play with a guy that can give you nothing else after that. Is it really going to be worth it?
This is only lust, it does not mean you do not love your boyfriend but you need to make a choice of what you want.
Give relationhip a go and wait a few more months or be single.
Good luck
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