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writes:I have been with my boyfriend a year and a half, we are suited in every way, want the same things out of life, never argue and always have fun together. We moved in together for the first time 4 months ago, and set up our own business. It has been stressful and both of our sex drive has lowered. I worked part time somewhere else and a few days ago I kissed this guy. I couldn't believe I had done it but this guy was very attractive to me, I felt I couldnt control it (although I was drunk). I couldnt lie to my partner so told him, he was thinking of leaving me but has decided to work it out. However now I keep thinking I cant love him if I did that to him, keep analysing it in my head. I want to be with this guy, I love him, I want to marry him and spend my future with him. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): If you feel that you can't love him because of what you did then you are probably right. you are not mentally ready to settle with this one person in your mind you is but your heart is saying something different dont get into something now that you will regret later if you feel that there are other things you want to do, then you should sit down get an understanding with your partner and come to a conclusion on what to do with your current relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): well if you luv this guy dump ure b.f its unfair but break it to him gently best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): Drink is a major problem in life but you have been honest and come clean with yourself and your partner. I'm so glad that he has been able to put it behind him and that alone shows that he love you. I think you just have to do the same. Some people just don't put too much emphasis on kissing and don't see it as being damaging. I, on the other hand wouldn't like my partner to kiss anyone else - ever. I hope you two do work things out and make a future together, just be careful in future when you do have a drink.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): you were honest with yourself and most importantly your partner. you made a grave mistake while under the influence and hopefully youve learnt your lesson quickly.
the most important aspect is that youve been honest and as a result your bf has been gracious enough to forgive you.
as long as youve learnt your lesson to keep your drinking controlled and be honest. you'll have a happy life with the man you love.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (2 February 2007):
 People do a lot of things they shouldn't when they're drunk and that was your problem. You were honest with your boyfriend and owned up about it but it wasn't such a big deal. If you were sober do you think you'd have done the same?
Put it behind you and forget about it. I would maybe leave the drink behind though if you can't keep yourself under control with it.
Eve
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reader, cd206 +, writes (2 February 2007):
 I think you're overanalysing a kiss. You say you were drunk and tha it was a mistake. I just wonder if perhaps your guilt is telling you that you don't want to be with your boyfriend but if that's definitely wrong forgive yourself. We've all had indiscreet kisses.
CD
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