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writes: im in love with a guy who already has a girlfriend.he says he loves me but cannot leave his girl.i accepted him and things were going good but now after few months he is having constant mood swing.does he really love me?what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): I think that its to much for him and he doesnt know which one to let go of and scence he knows your not going anywhere its easier to take his anger out on you than the real girlfriend. I think that he may have feelings for you but not love.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 Hi dear
Is he still seeing his gf? Probably he just want to switch ur excitement off so that he can spend some time with her. Mood swings are never a symbol of love, I think u should leave him bcos relationships that u know u are the other woman don’t really work-out, I don’t know what possessed u to accept this condition inlove or not I don’t think it was a good move. Maybe initially it was working for u but u have to remember she will always be there as long as she doesn’t know that u exist and she still love him. Or maybe he has realized that he doesn’t want u anymore and it was a mistake so he is trying to get rid of u, he is a player probably he does this every time to all the others keeping a steady girlfriend and fool around with sweet girls like u who don’t mind sharing. Its ur decision to make if u want to keep him then ask him why all of a sudden he developed mood swings maybe he will be honest with u and tell u where this is going, but if u need something real he will have to leave his gf which I seriously doubt he will as its six months now and he is still with both of u for his own selfish reason.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 This is a classic cake of having cake and eating it. Men are fairly straight-forward creatures when it comes to love and relationships. When they are totally into you then they are drilling holes in your front door locks to be with you. When they are mixed-up or not sure then they start exhibiting mixed messages - this guy has a girlfriend and a potential mistress. He is not bargain of the year - if he wanted to leave her then he would have done it by now. Whats more, it sounds like he has been at least flirting with you when he is dating her - this means he has the potential to cheat in the future if you ever became his girlfriend...how could you trust him? Find someone deserving of you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): either he doesn't understand what love is or he's just lying to keep you hanging. If he loved you he would automatically leave his girl for you, love is giving up everything for the one thing you love, if he says he loves you but "cannot" leave his girl, he does not love you at all, and probably just wants you as his bit on the side. Have you been watching eastenders lately, there's a similar storyline, the guy has a wife and he says he loves this girl he's been going out with for a few weeks and she asks him to leave her and such...i cant remember if he did or not.
Basically he's cheating on both of you and after you giving him another chance he should be begging at your ankles, you could go out and get a decent, honest guy, why should you stay with someone who thinks it's ok to tell his girl he loves them, but refuse to leave his other girl. I think you deserve way better, i would probably dumped him when i found out he had someone else anyway you deserve better.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 oh dear thi happened to my best friend some years ago it's hard for me to advise you as I know yuo're deeply in love of this guy but mind he's playin both sides so he never ends up alone and it's to be difficult for u to get out of the dituation in happy way unless the other girls drops him for whatever reason, I believe this man doesn't deserve u, u can only give him or yourself a deadline to solve it up and decide what he wants to do or for you to leave him if he doesn't reach a decission I think it is possible he loves u both in different ways but as I think you're not muslim or arab and won't accept him having more than one wife then u should satart thinking about meeting new guys and friends start new activities and eventually move on form him if youre strong enough to know how he's behaving then u're strong enough to walk on darling women have the power
I sent you a ton of strenght and empathy
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