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Does he really like (have feelings for) me or am I just some form of "female companion"?

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Question - (25 April 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 25 April 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

This is going to be long, but I will try to keep it short.

So I met this guy about two weeks ago through an internet dating site, we talked for about a week before finally meeting up.

Our date went perfectly well, a lot of talking/getting to know each other and lots of laughs. Well, the night ended with just a hug (he asked if he could kiss me, and I said no becuz I wasn't ready yet). After that, we texted back and forth and settled a second date for the day after.

Well, the second date never happened becuz we are both too busy with school work, so we ended up spending 3 hours together studying and again, ended with a hug.

So for about 3 days, we would hung out, but mostly to study together for an hour or two every time. On some nights, after his late class, he would drop by my house for about 10 to 15 minutes just to see me and spend a little time together, but then has to leave soon because he either has a test the next day or a paper due. He did asked me what I think about "us", that he likes me, and am I willing to be with him. I told him I do like him as well, but I would like to take things slow.

Every time I see him, he would always ask if he get a kiss, and the answer was always no, and he never tries to force it on me or talk me out either....

On the 4th night, just when he was about to leave, I gave him a quick peck and that was it.

The next day, for the first time since our first date, we spend about 2 hours, just being with each other, cuddling and a little bit of making out before he has to go to his class.

Then just yesterday, the same thing. About 2 hours of time together, cuddling and making out before he has to work.

Now.....I really enjoy time with him and he says he does too, but I feel like I rarely get to talk to him at all. We do have schedules that does not go together (I am busy all morning till mid afternoon and he is busy from noon till midnight, which by then, I'm already in bed) and so it is kind of hard to really find time for each other.

He is not exactly a tech savvy person and so that means he rarely uses any technology stuff to communicate. He does go to school full time, work a part time job and is in the military.

I've been to his work place to have coffee with my friend and my friend said he has been looking at me the whole time through whenever he has the chance.

I feel like he does care for me becuz he would always somehow, manage to squeeze out little bits of time here and there for me if I told him I'm having a rough day and I needed some support, and he treats me like a princess whenever I'm around.....but at the same time, I sometimes feel like if I don't say/do anything, I won't ever hear from him. I said, we are both really busy, specially at this time of the year (end of semester...tests) and our schedule don't really match. Do you think he really cares about me or that I am just some form of...female companion?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy + , writes (25 April 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt I think he likes you. Men with such a busy schedule rarely would bother making time for a girl just for the sake of companionship.

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