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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy through an online dating site, we emailed back and forth for about a nite and texed about a week, went out on the first date and was instantly attracted to each other. We are both busy with school around this time of the year so in the beginning, we either hung out to study together or its just randomly bumping into each other on campus, had a little chat and a long hug before going on our seperate ways. Well, four days after the first date, we officially started dating and I finally gave him a kiss that he has been asking for almost a whole week.The day after that kiss, we had an intense make out session and pretty much for every day in the past two weeks, we would hang out together, and there's always physical interaction every time, lots of kissing, touching, cuddling but no sex yet. I told him I am not ready for sex yet and so he never really pressured me on that, but every time, if we are alone and we have a big block of time together, he would want me to give him head. (I've given him twice within the past two weeks)Now I can feel that he would get all turned on and hard by just less than 1 minute of kissing, and well, every time we made out, its always a 30 minute minimum session so I can understand that it may be torture for him. But sometimes I wonder if he really cares for me or that he just wants sex, but is being patient right now, just waiting for the day that he can finally get under my pants.The reason I am asking is because I feel like we hardly ever talk. He said he is not a tech savvy person so he does not really enjoy cell phones(takes forever for him to reply to texts), emails(rarely checks them and does not ever reply), IMs(does not even have an account)....He always prefer to set up a time so he can talk with me/be with me in person rather than over some technology product. But we are both EXTREMELY busy with our own schedules that does not meet (He is always busy during my free time and vise versa), but at the same time, if I am having a bad day, all I have to do is tell him and he WILL somehow squeeze out time to see me, give me a hug/kiss.....which then always ends up into him wanting me to give him head if we happens to be alone and not in public.I questioned him about what he thinks of me a few days ago and about us and he did say "you are definitely my girlfriend,i really like hanging around with you, it makes my day when I see you"So....I'm just puzzled. I don't want to go too hard (over communication) on him and scare him off or make him think I'm needy, but at the same time, I don't know if he really cares about me or that he's just using me to satisfy his sexual needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): If you are having doubts about his motives; Don't give in until you're sure its right. I'm sure the heavy making out and things of that nature would make anyone want to jump in the sack. Its usually how it goes, you're in the zone and if the passion is there, its there. However him making comments about you going down on him is not something he should really be pressuring you to do after 2 weeks(if that is correct) . I'd tell you to hold back on sex maybe even the oral and see how he reacts. Meet at public places or places where you can't be alone, movies, dinner, parks. He says he likes to talk in person, so go somewhere you can do just that. If he is a gentleman and really cares about you, then he can wait and be respectful. Dont do anything you're not ready for and he should respect that. Good luck
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