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writes:Ok I have to be honest here. I'm 26 and I am a virgin and I never had a real g/f before. Now there's nothing wrong with me and I am attractive. For 6 years I've been in school getting my bachelors studying architecture so for those of you that don't know this takes away from having a normal social life just like someone studying to be a lawyer or doctor. So I hardly went out. Well I've been patient and I am waiting for the right girl to come around. I'm single with a job now and ready to start a relationship. Now my question is if I do find a girl that is interested in me do you think not having any past relationship and being a virgin will scare her off? Some girls like to make quick judgements about me thinking that something must be wrong with me thinking I might be too needy and desperate. Well if I do get to that point of topic shoud I just be honest with them about my past or should I just lie about it and say I've had a few girls no big deal. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): It's definitely not something to be ashamed of. There is no need to hide this about yourself! A guy that's waiting for the right girl is really...something. Something desirable. My boyfriend lost his virginity to me when he was 27. At first, he lied about being a virgin and was ashamed of it...for the same reason that you are. When he told me the truth, I wasn't upset at all. In fact, it was the complete opposite. I was thrilled.
I suppose there are some girls that might not be as excited by it as I was...but..there are many girls that are. & You'll find one & she'll be worth the wait. You want a girl that can accept you for who you are & not what you've done in bed!
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reader, BethanyAnn16 +, writes (30 April 2010):
I personally think I virgin guy who's waiting for the right girl to be a godsend.
Dude where are you?
No but seriously. Many girls think that this is wierd. That being a virgin in this day and age is just plain freaky. But it's something to be proud of. You saved yourself and it should be a compliment to your partner. Don't think your an outcast because you didn't give it up the first chance you got.
If a girl doesn't understand that, she probably isn't the 'right' girl. Besides if someone said I was wierd for being a virgin I would call them wierd for being 'STD city.'
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): Be honest!! Never lie it's not a good way to start off a relationship. You have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of, what you did is a very responsible thing to do. Just be confident and have some self esteem, you are a really good catch and most girls will see that. There may be a few girls who will be turned off by your lack of experience but oh well, they're not the right girls for you. Personally I wouldn't care at all and actually would find it a big turn on to know that you haven't been around the block with every girl you could. I am a 26yr female and know many guys near your age with similar stories. Congratulations on the BA, I'm getting one right now as well and it really does take away all of your free time. Just keep with what you're doing and be honest, nothing to lie about, you sound like a great guy.
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reader, KRSMouse  +, writes (29 April 2010):
there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, i study architecture myself so i understand how demanding it is. if i were you though, i'd be honest. if someone cant love you for who you are, then they are not worth your time anyway. better to be upfront, than to lie and have them find out later on anyway
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