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age
36-40,
*upidLover
writes:So,this other guy from my group- he's a total computer geek,but him and i are pretty much best friends,and we slept together a few months ago,and basically he lost his virginity to me..My question is,for all you guys especially,and girls can feel free to comment,but guys,do you think that since him and i are purely best friends and we just got intimate together,and he lost his virginity to me,do u think he has some sort of intimate feelings towards me? i mean we had no feelings like that for each other. And i def dont see him in that way..I was just curious to know what do u think he's feeling towards me since he lost his virginity to me after a long night of drinking. He was planning on staying a virgin until marriage...FEEDBACK PLEASEEE!!
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reader, Andrea24  +, writes (11 May 2011):
It is funny what they one of the females wrote...you waiting for him to take advantage of him? Come one, what is he 7 years old??? I think he felt something special, but he also knows that nothing will happened between you two so I don't think something will happened. My friend's ex boyfriend was with me when she dumped...and NO I DIDNT WAIT FOR HIM TO GET DRUNK he don't even drink...he said that he loved me a couple of times, but then he found someone else and forgot about the issue...SO don't hurt yourself thinking too much about this issue...just keep going with your life.
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reader, CupidLover +, writes (6 July 2009):
CupidLover is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for those who replied to my question...
However, your answers sort of put a frown on my face..
First of all,for the anonymous female that answered my Q 1st,i DID NOT wait for him to get drunk so we could do such a thing,and i had NO intentions of taking advantage of him,that's a pretty harsh thing to say.I would never want to stab my friends in the back like that!!
Ever since then,him and i have carried on being friends just as we were the night before it all happened.
I don't know exactly how he feels about what happened,but its been months now since it all happened and we've gotten on just well and that night has never repeated itself.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (22 June 2009):
 I think that he feels really guilty and depressed. I had a friend who lost his virginity when he wanted to wait towards marriage. He might even feel some resentment towards you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): as a a 30ish guy who has heared
such cases
i assume that he has allot of emotions toward you
and these emotions might tarnish after years but they well never disapear
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reader, daletom +, writes (22 June 2009):
That's actually a rather complicated question.
In general, yes, guys often become attached to their first sex partner. It can be troubling for them if they think the girl doesn't have some feelings in return.
If he planned to stay a virgin until marriage he may feel ashamed for compromising that intention. Both the fact that you have no particular attraction to him, AND the way in which it happened (" ... after a long night of drinking ... ") can have significant negative effects on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): It sounds as if you waited for him to get drunk and then did something you knew he would regret later. You basically took advantage of him. I'd imagine he hates you.
I guarantee if you were a guy and posted here that you'd had sex with a girl when she was drunk, when you knew that she wanted to wait till marriage, you'd get A LOT of shit for it.
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