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writes:my fiance cheated on by talking to another girl and telling her he loves her and i found out.he said he changed he was just passing through hard times.but im finding it difficult to trust him.i always disturb him and argue
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): If he truley was in love with you ,he would have never cheated nor looked at another woman. He is selfish and wants what he wants and never once thought about your feelings. A man never feels guilty until caught. Can you ever trust him again is the question? You will always wonder and worry cause there is nothing he can do to take away the hurt he has caused you. It is always easy to blame someone or something else for your actions he needs to take the blame for his actions other then pointing at everything else. He cheated not because of hard times because it was what he wanted at the time. I have been there and I wanted to believe he would never do it again but he did and it broke my heart to have to leave him but my choices were live with a man who cheats and hurts me or hurt, get over it and move on. My choice was for me to move on. If they cheat once more then likley they will again. Good luck and the best of wishes
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reader, busy04  +, writes (15 June 2010):
 If everyone, absolutely EVERYONE went through this life & blamed their infidelities & wrongful doing to others on "hard time", what a sad world to live in. And a horrible lie to tell.
Your fiance is using "hard times" as a cheap, lowdown scapegoat to make you feel like you should "understand" what he did. There is nothing to understand except that your fiance is firstly a horrible cheat. Secondly, he's a man that can't & won't take responsibility for actions & choices that HE made. Thirdly, he is obviously weak. So you can expect to be cheated on & lied to every time he "passes through hard times". And lastly, you can do better! Someone like that is not worth marrying or trusting.
All the best to you! :)
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 June 2010):
 Forgive my language, but hard times my ASS.
What's worse than having a fiance cheat on you sexually is telling the person he was cheating with that he loves her. That's a really horrible and hurtful thing. How can you trust him when he says that to you??
He isn't having a "hard time". He's a liar and a manipulator. You can't trust him, and you shouldn't trust him. You're worried about "disturbing" HIM?!
You should break up with him. You can't trust him, and love means nothing to him.
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