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writes:Hi, i had a conversation with my boyfriend about love and he said i appreciate your interest in me but in this matters i become like st thomas the only difference is that i also want to see myself. Any clue what he means. Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (20 August 2015):
 It's a biblical reference, which pretty much means "I won't believe it until I see it".
This could mean many things. The only thing to do is to ask him what that means.
It could mean, if you two haven't had sex, that he's pressuring you for it while calling it "love".
It could mean he doesn't feel the same way about you that you do to him.
It could mean that he wants to see for himself whether he had feelings for you.
He could mean that he has been cheated on in the past, and he wants to see if you say this until another man comes along.
I would be pretty firm with any guy who said that to me, and I'd tell him that I don't care about his past, I'm not going to be put to the test to see if my love is real, and that he has to work out his own feelings and be clear as to how he sees me and us. No game playing allowed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2015): He means that he needs to see some kind of sign that you love and care for him. No sure how thats what he is looking for.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 August 2015):
 It may be some awkward reference to St. Thomas's "Rule of Faith". you might want to google the Catholic references to how the rules of faith are paramount to true beliefs. I can't imagine exactly what his intent is by this reference other than maybe; you have to believe in love to make it a reality. Whatever his intended reference means it is akward and blurry so I'd press him on it as feeling with respect to love are often complicated and you need clarity before you commit too far. Best of luck I hope the clue helps.
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