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writes:i have been with my boyfriend now for three years, in that time he has cheated once what i know of, and lied on many occasions.i have stayed around i suppose in the hope of him changing, and i really thought he had, until i found out he lied to me again. he was supposed to be comming to mine last saturday morning, but he told me he had to work. i have since found out he went to a female friends barbecue. he eventually turned up at mine at 9pm and i believed at the time he had been working.he does not know that i know where he was yet, so i asked him straight out was he really working or did he just make other plans. he looked me in the face and said he was working and why did i not believe him.i just said ok i believe you. he is 40 not some kid and i am 36, and i am starting to hate myself for the simple fact i cannot find it in me to leave him. im afraid that at my age its hard for me to meet someone else, and i cannot bare the thought of him meeting another. is there anyone here that has been in the same situation and walked? or did he change?any advice is welcome.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (8 July 2009):
 NO, a liar and a cheat never change they just become more manipulative and try harder to conceal what they are up to. I have atually found that around the 40 year old mark men seem to lie more than at any other age. Whether this is because they feel more confident with themselves and think they can get away with it or they just don't really care I am not sure but lie they do. Men who stare you straight in the face and eyes and lie are the worst. They will lie about anything to cover their tracks and some seem to get off on the lying thing! I would seriously think about getting rid and moving on as this is only going to go down hill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): He is lying to you because he has found that he can get away with it. This is really not good at all. He is going to continue doing as he pleases because he now perceives you as a doormat and will wait around for him and believe everything he tells you.
And when you contract an STD - he will blame you for being unfaithfull...
No liars and cheaters never change, they just learn to get better at lying and cheating so that they can fabricate their stories that they even believe themselves.
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reader, pinkgoblin15  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 Well it depends on the man my boyfriend changed he cheated and lied to me. My moms ex boyfriend never changed and he will never change and im 100% sure of this. If you have been with him for three years i doubt he will change for you :S But then again when he grows up he might change and stop his evil ways lol I know a mentally handicapped guy that is with a girl that has nothing wrong with her. I'm sure you will find someone. You should try talking to him threaten to leave him i mean if you dont have any plans on leaving him its worth a shot.
Good Luck
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (8 July 2009):
 This is a dangerous man. I mean, come on, someone who can look you dead in the face and lie to you?
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