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writes:well heres my question: i am 14 and am madly in love with my bf of 7 months we have recently been talkin bout having sex for the first time. we are both virgins but he is 16. do you think we should have sex. we have talked about it for a few weeks but not rushed into anything. shall we leave it or do it. i am unsure although i really want to.
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reader, rk06  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 No. This is hard for you to hear... but... your relationship will not last.
Any respectful man in the future will not want to date a girl that had sex at 14.
Wait for someone you will marry.
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reader, tank-claude +, writes (11 April 2007):
 Hi my answer... no, 1 its illegal, 2 what if you end up pregnant and 3, its ILLEGAL. But i am not your legal guardian however if you were to tell your parents they are likely to forbid you from seeing him. So i can see your in a pickle. If i was you i'd wait at least till yore 16, then you'll at least be legal. My other advice is if you end up doing it.1 USE A CONDOM,2 TAKE THE PILL,3 DONT LET HIM PUSH YOU IN TO IT GIRL,
4 MAKE IT SPECIAL, put some soft music on lite some candles bring strawberrys, whiped cream, rose petals scatered over the bed wear somthing sexy that makes YOU feel good remember it may hurt at first but dont be scared and FOR GOD SAKES MAKE SURE HE PUTS A CONDOM ON!!
BEST OF LUCK
EMAIL ME ON YOUR DECISION OR ON HOW IT WENT :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): Please DON'T have sex until you are older and find the right one. That is my biggest mistake in my life. I had casual sex with people that I did not love or hardly knew. Now I am married and am haunted every day by my past. My husband knows of something that I did and cannot let it go. It is controlling our marriage. I only wish I had stayed a virgin until I got married. My past really hurts. I wish that my husband was the only person I had ever been with. I now realize how important it is for a girl to have respect for herself. When you find the right one, he will have the utmost respect for you knowing that you had respect for yourself. So, PLEASE think before you act. This is something that will affect you for the rest of your life!
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (11 April 2007):
 Have you ever heard the phrase "the blind leading the blind"?
I think it's wonderful that the two of you found each other and are in this very special relationship. But it worries me that neither of you has any experience. In particular, I would worry about his ability to give you a really good sexual experience. That takes patience and practice, neither of which your guy is likely to have.
If you're going to do this, I suggest that you do your homework ahead of time. There are a lot of good books that cover the subject. Get one and BOTH of you read it, preferably together. Yes, you may be embarrassed, but remember, you're going to be DOING this together in a short while. If you need a specific recommendation, I'd suggest "What Your Mother Never Told You About S-E-X" by Dr. Hilda Hutcherson. It's got pictures. It goes into detail about a whole lot of things ... more than you'll need to get started. It answers all those questions that most people get answered in bull sessions under the school bleachers, or at least they used to.
PLEASE take your time on this. A little investment in getting to know what the heck you're getting into now can make the difference (especially for you) between a lifetime of pleasure and a lifetime of indifference as far as sex goes.
And for heaven's sake DON'T FORGET THE BIRTH CONTROL!!!! You CAN get pregnant the first time you have sex, or even come close to having sex.
And good luck to you. Have fun and be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): Both of you are at an age of where your hormones over ride your brain cells. DO NOT GIVE IN! DO NOT HAVE SEX NOW! You are too young and not responsible enough to pay the consequences in case of a "disease" or "pregnancy". If you are "meant to be", wait. You will be glad you did. I was a virgin at age 18! I am now 44!
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