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writes:hiya i broke up with my boyfriend in august this year as i wanted to think about our future but he is worried about commitment, we tried to remain friends but in the end i decided to stop seeing each other for a while so we could sort ourselves out!!! Recently i started talking to him again through email and msn!!!!it was all going well until i started talking about why we broke up and things got emotional...on my end!!! he said he loves me but he doesnt want a relationship at the moment, i asked if he loved me as a friend, he said more than a friend!he also went on to say that he wants to see me smile as he likes it and that i would make a good florist as flowers are pretty and so am i!!! the thing is he has stopped coming online as often, i caught him online and asked if he was avoiding me he said he wasnt and we had a nice convo and he was really happy to talk to me but again he has stopped coming online!!! Is he doing this to get my attention or is he actually avoiding me (i should probably tell you that he is usually always online)!!!?????we are seeing each other soon as its my 21st so we are going to london together and he is looking forward to it!!!! do you think we have a chance of getting back together, we have both agreed that we were a good couple and he has said he could see us being hubby and wife in the future he is just not ready yet!!im a bit confused as i dont know wether he is doing this to get my attention or is avoiding an awkward conversation?should i just forget him? help!!!!!!!!!i am 20 he is 25!!!
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (6 December 2007):
 I don't think he is doing this just to get your attention, from what you have said i think he does have feelings for you. However i feel he is not ready to start back in a relationship at this point, wich does not mean he does not want to in the near future. He said himself he could see the pair of you as Hubby & Wife in the future. For now i woulden't push it to much, keep talking to him when its appropriate, maybe arrange to meet upi for a drink or something to eat. take things nice and slow and at his pace and im sure things will work out for you both in the end.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): there could be many reasons he might not be online - he could be avoiding you - but probably not in a 'she's a stalker' way considering it sounds like you had a pretty intense relationship. He could be avoiding you because if he has commitment issues, he may be scared of talking to you about everything considering it turned into an emotional conversation the first time.
When you meet up with him, just let him see the fun side of you again - the part that he first saw without the scary commitment. If you can get back to that stage with him you can build on it, but make it sturdier than the last time, show him that your relationship is fun, and that it would be good to spend a long time with you, rather than getting all serious and making him thik about the scary future.
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