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writes:Hi everyone Thanks in advance for your advice. I am a 26 year old woman in the process of applying to medical school, and began dating a man, who recently turned 32. Our first date was in the first week of March, and it was quite possibly the best first date I had ever been on. Well, I guess I wasn't the only one b/c the next day when I called to thank him for the lovely evening we shared the night before, he very cutely asked me if I'd like to be his exclusive girlfriend. I obviously said yes! Our relationship progressed rather quickly; we were spending a lot of time together, and talking several times a day. We had even talked about the future and settling down etc... Well, he left to be out of the country for a month for work but when he returned, I was out of the country for a month. When I returned, I saw him for quite literally two hours before he had to leave for work again. In this two hour time frame he told me that his mother (whom I've never met) became anxious about his not being married at 32 years old, and decided to set him up on match.com. I didn't say much, but I was really hurt. I obviously checked out his profile etc..., and noticed that he was tremendously active. It made me even more sad when he returned to the country, and wouldn't respond to my phone calls or my emails etc....It felt like he became completely distant over night. Finally, last thursday, he sent me an email w/ the typical, 'i think you're a great girl,' bs and said he needed some time to think things through. I want my boyfriend back. My friends have told me that I shouldn't do anything but wait. No emails, no texts, no calls, no nothing. Do you think this is the right approach? Just ignore him and hope he comes back?? Please help!
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reader, madlyinloveandconfused +, writes (1 July 2009):
madlyinloveandconfused is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni appreciate everyones advice. i'm just going to sit back, but i'm also not going to hold my breath and wait. he was a former model, so at the risk of tooting my own horn, if i'm cute enough for him, i'm sure other men will find me attractive too.
if he comes back to me, he and i will have a long talk, and go from there, but if not, so be it. i have to have faith that my prince charming is out there!
princess jasmine...thanks for the tips...we're in the same boat, so take your own advice! :-)
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (30 June 2009):
i hate men! why do they do this to us???? That story really hurt me, I can totally empathize with you. My friends say the same, it's supposed to be the guys move, he should text you first, if he does, it'll show that he is still interested in you, if not, move on. I know it sucks but don't you deserve someone who doesnt play mind games, who doesn't ask you to be his gf one day and then be on match.com the next? don't you deserve someone who gives you his all? Im having the same problems, it's hard when your heart tells you this is the one, when your mind is struggling to say, no no no, if he were the one, he wouldn't have done this. Keep your options open, date around, meet people, and go out with your girls (that's what helps.) But if he texts you back, well then go with the flow and talk to him in a chill way, don't bring up any of this crap, just be yourself, be the best you that you can be, and maybe he'll see what he's missing out on (maybe he took things too fast and needed to backtrack a little and slow thigns down.) You never know, keep him in the picture if you really like this guy, but don't put all your eggs in one basket. Keep it very very open, make it seem like you don't care (eventhough ur dying inside i know haha, I'm right there with you!) Just don't be the first to call/text, let him do it, and just talk normally, get to know eachother, slow it down and see where it goes. Maybe you'll find someone who treats you like a princess in the process:) (and me too! hehe)
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reader, citic101  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 Yes ignore him . Sounds like a jerk
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