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writes:We've been together for almost 4 years but the last 2 years were spent away from each other since he's now residing in England. He came home for vacation just last January and stayed for a month. A few weeks after he left I found out I was pregnant. So now I'm in my 4th month. However, these past weeks, we've been arguing a lot. Mostly because he said I demand and ask a lot that it's annoying him already. It's just that since I became pregnant I always feel the urge to chat him, call him, hear from him, get easily jealous and insecure, etc. Like 24/7. But of course when he's at work I don't disturb him. What made me feel anxious even more is there's this girl who claims on her facebook page that he's courting her but when I confronted him about it, he said it's impossible. I also confronted the girl and she denied it as well. Btw, the girl's got a boyfriend too so I do not know her point of doing that. But anyway, it's just that he gets irritated so quickly and sometimes he ignores me for days even when I plead or beg him to talk to me already. One time he even broke up with me but took it back a few hours later and said he didn't mean it. When I asked him if he wants to be left alone or if he doesn't want me anymore, he kept saying no. I told him that if he doesn't love me anymore, I'd accept it and let him go but he always tells me that he doesn't want to lose me and that he loves me. Sometimes we're fine and all lovey-dovey, then the next day it's like I'm his worst enemy. I don't understand.I need an outsider's point of view. Please help. Thanks!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Facebook seems to cause more problems between people than any other contact medium.
I've been pregnant 3 times so I can speak with authority when I say that pregnancy does stuff to your head! All those hormones running round in your body makes you such a hard person to understand. One minute you are happy, the next sad then angry etc. Pregnant people are tricky to be around for men sometimes. Men have a hard enough job understanding us women at the best of times but when you add pregnancy into the mix it's 10 times worse for them. Could you join another forum for pregnant women to post worries and questions on? Other women are far better to talk to and they really understand. PM me if you want, i'd be happy to yap.
The other thing is your BF is probably dealing with his own conflicting feelings on this new little person who will be coming into your life. I know when I got pregnant with our first child who was planned my husband started freaking about how to support us and whether or not he would be a good father and then he had to deal with a hormone charged wife at the same time. Hard work :-)
As I said I'd be happy to talk more if you want to PM me with your worries. Good luck doll you will be fine.
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