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writes:I need some advice, any gratefully welcome.I am a 25 year old virgin (yes 25), I have never ever had a boyfriend (never), I don't really know why it just never happended, anyway, a guy who works with me has started to show an interest and we flirt a lot (like all the time), he is leaving the company in January but he says he will keep in touch. I am jumping the gun a bit here but rumours are he is thinking of asking me out, I want to accept but because I have NEVER been on a date or anything I am a bit scared (This guy has a bit of a rep as a bad boy). I don't want to make a fool of myself, and I don't really know what to expect, normally people say just go with the flow and what happens happens but do you think he will be able to tell, you know.Thanks for taking the time to read this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): You've made it to be a virgin at 25. Some guy's would LOOOOVE to marry and not just sleep with and leave someone like that. Don't waste it on a guy who's not going to keep in touch. That's just a ploy to get in your pants. Why would he keep in touch, when he's already popped you. As I said before: you're a 25 year old virgin. Some guys would love to have you not just sleep with them and leave but dare I say? MARRRRRY THEMMMMM! Why give it up to some guy whose moving away? Your worth more then that. After he's popped you like bag of orvel redenbacher he'll have a free conscious and leave to try to deceive other unsuspecting virgins. SAAAAAAAAAAAAVE YOURSELLLLLFFFFFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): it will be just fine. most 'bad boys' arent bad at all, and just carry the image. i commute to work on a motorcycle, and can pop a wheelie here and there, and tend to be on the grumpy side- so enough for a bad boy label, but i dont consider myself that way at all. you know him, and have enough mutual contacts. chances are even if soemthing happens, relationship isnt going anywhere (he is moving, right?), would that be okay with you? otherwise, take it easy, and take it for whats it worth.
being a virgin should be least of your worries.
and remember, it gets better as it goes on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): Go slow please. A week of madness when I was on a sixth form holiday cost me and my friend our virginities to the same guy. I was furious with myself for being taken in by him. :( Go slow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): Is it a bad thing to be inexperienced or nervous, will this put him off.
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Well, bad boys, in my small experience, are not the best way to go - they might rush you, hurt you or even get carried away and rape you! Anyhow, until you are going out, and you see his true colours, dont even think about sex - don't be forward, but don't let him push you to do something you don't want to do!
Hope I helped!
jelly
xxx
(For anyone who cares - I am still a virgin - but I understand what happens (emotionally.))
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Hello,
By all means accept if you like him.
As he is leaving in January, this may be a fling or something and it will cost you your virginity. You say he has a bad boy rep, so he will probably "guess" you are either sexually inexperienced, nervous or a virgin. (possible bleeding and pain)
However, if you are happy, then go with the flow! xxx
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