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writes:so ive been sleeping with this guy for about 5 months and we do alot of things that couples do. we text and talk to each other everyday he invites me over to his house to just hang out. he has invtes me to go with him to his friends/ cousins. he has shared some personal stuff with me like his battle with depression. we never had the bf/gf talk yet and im curious if he just sees me as a FWB or as a girlfriend. just curious to what answers this will get, thanks
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 So good to know this ended well :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso i got over my nerves and i had the chat with him! and now we are offically together : ]he said that he just always assumed we were a couple, silly boy lolso thank you all for the wonderful advice!
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reader, Ciar +, writes (22 September 2011):
 Hard to say. He seems to be treatng you like a girlfriend, but some people like having all the perks of a relationship (besides just the sexual) without the commitment. I recommend you not ask him, but TELL him you're operating under the assumption that you're his girlfriend and that you're both exclusive. This does not make you look desperate or clingy. On the contrary, it shows that you're confident, decisive and that you're accustomed to being treated well. If he didn't see you as a girlfriend before, it wil be easier for him to do so now because making it official won't change anything and he won't want to ruin a good thing by offending you.Do NOT ask him if he sees you as a friend with benefits. That implies you would be receptive to such an arrangement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2011): I think you'll never know unless you talk to him about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2011): I think you sound close enough to be able to have a chat with him and ask him how he sees the two of you. just ask him what you asked us.. say to him, "We spend a lot of time together and i'm curious to know how you see me? do you see me as a FWB or as a girlfriend.. what do you think?"He's shared enough with you such as his depression to be able to talk honestly with you about your friendship. see what he says!
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