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writes:How am I meant to see how he feels?For all purposes I'll call him Jack... He's one of my teachers currently.I started to develop feelings for him around six months ago. There was a period of time where literally every night I had a dream about him for almost a month! (I believe dreams are subconsious messages) The annoying thing is I had almost a 2 month break from him and my feelings still haven't changed. /:To be frank, my feelings started because I noticed all the little things he did differently with me than other people. I mean, I could get away with most things in lessons... One of my favourite memories was when he spent the lesson teaching me to juggle but then one of my friends on another table was given a detention for playing squares. He always seems to I don't know, wish to please me? But I'm not sure how to best describe it. s:What also didn't help was the fact my friends seemed to think the same thing as me! (I haven't told them yet, I'm not sure if I should)You should probably know though that I have always acted much older than my years. What really worries me is how this could affect his career if he does have any emotions towards me. I wouldn't want to jepordise his career of life (he isn't married) because of what most people would assume was a "schoolgirl crush".I want to be able to see how he feels so I can give myself some closure if he doesn't feel the same, or wait the short time period until it won't harm his job if he does feel the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2011): i have to agree with the jmc just wait and if you still feel like this in a few years then talk to him but not now you dont want to risk jepordasing the relationship you have with him at the moment. just bide your time :) maybe you'll find a guy your own age and fall in love with him. i know exactly how you feel one of my teachers was like this with me it was one rule for me and a rule for everyone else. i know how frustrating it is when you cant figure out where you stand with someone and cant get closure, the only way i managed it was when i left school and stopped having contact with him and just said thats over with now. like you i also act a lot older than i am ,so the way i look at it he treated me differently cause he saw me as more of an equal than a pupil and i was a favourite. ive spent many a night overanalysing things and trust me its really best not to :\ legally he is not allowed to have a relationship with you until youre 18.hope this helps a tiny bit. i know what a slow process it is to get over someone took me almost 6 months to get to the point where i look at other guys in that way and im still not fully over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2011): You don't.
You're his student and a minor. Having a "how do you feel about me" conversation with an adult and your teacher is a great way to jeopardize his career and his entire life (who wants to associate with someone who has a sexual interest in children?).
Sometimes teachers have a "favorite" student, and sometimes that designation is played out in different ways. Instead of assuming it's because he's madly in love with you, assume you're the teacher's pet and continue being a good student.
Perhaps when you're not longer a minor, and he's no longer your teacher, you can have that talk if you still feel the same way. But for now, you should brush it under the rug and carry on with your education and teen years.
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