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writes:I am so confused by his actions i don't know what is goig on, so really could do with some advice. Me and my ex were friends before we started seeing eachother, then we got together and everything was great. But he then ended it, he didn't give me a proper reason but then told me he was going travelling around the world a couple of months later.We decided to remain freinds and we get along great. Well his been back a while now and my feelings for him have never gone away-i have also thought he still has feelings fer me aswell, especially just lately.Thing is he has been really touchy feely and we have this intense eye contact where he seems to look really deep in to my eyes. We were out in a big group the other week and he started to bring things up in conversation that i had told him when we were together(small stuff i thought he would prob have forgotton) when i asked him why he said he was not likely to ever forget all that stuff. Then i mailed him a couple of weeks back and told him i may be in the area where he works on that monday and said i may pop in and see him if i was around. He then mailed me his entire rota for the rest of the week with his shift hours on and a note on the bottom saying i had no excuse not to go in and say hi now. All this is really confusing me, i don't know it may sound clear and simple to other people but i'm so confused i don't know what to think. Do you reckon his just being friendly-or does there seem to be more to it and if so should i bring this up in conversation(his quite a shy person by the way). Any advice would be great as its diving me insane and i don't know what to do.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 May 2008):
He's the one who ended it so he has no bad feelings towards you, and probably wants to be friends. He may just be putting loads of effort into being nice to you because he knows he has hurt you.
However, being really close friends will not help you as you need some space to get over him.
When you pop into his work, see if you can talk to him privately and explain that since he no longer wants to be with you, you need some time away from him to get over what you had.
If he is regretting his decision, he may ask you not to do that, but you have to be strong and tell him he has to either be your boyfriend or let you go.
If he's going travelling then you'll have some time not seeing him and that will give you space to think about it and get your head straight.
Ask him to back off for a bit, as he can't string you along like this, but probably just doesn't realise what he's doing.
Good Luck!! xx
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