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I'm ready for sex. . .but not ready. . .*gulp* help!

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Question - (17 May 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 17 May 2008)
A male Canada age 30-35, *laderade writes:

Hi guys! Okay, so I'm 15, and my friend thought I needed a girlfriend so he hooked me up with this girl, and she's really sweet and all, and I really like her. But a few days after we've been dating he calls me up and says "By the way, did I mention that she puts out. . .a lot?"

Now of course this is good. . .really good and I'm kind of excited (that sounds bad haha) but, well Im just gonna say it, I'm a virgin. I don't know much more than that "object 1" goes in "hole-slot 1". Any help here on how to. . .perform well? Even if its not sex, like what about oral or hand-action etc. Is there proper intercorse-edicit(SP?). Thanks!

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A male reader, Bladerade Canada +, writes (17 May 2008):

Bladerade is verified as being by the original poster of the question

to the anonymous female reader:

This girl is my gf, she is NOT stupid, she DOES use protection and I like her a lot, so you crossed the line wen you said she was stupid!

Oh and to Uncle Sneaker: There is no "set age" proper for sexual intercorse (in canada at least) and no ones supposed to know , , so keep it on the down-low. haha thanks for commenting uncle sneaker

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A male reader, Uncle Sneaker United Kingdom +, writes (17 May 2008):

Uncle Sneaker agony auntUncle Phil sums it up quite nicely.

Don't worry about the "etiquette". If it comes to it, just tell her it's a first time for you.

Just remember, you don't HAVE to do it. In fact, if after a few days of dating you decided she was really sweet and you really like her, then it might well be much better not to rush it. Apart from anything else, if what your friend said was true (and it might not be - it could be a wind-up because he thinks it would be funny if you "try it on" and she's not like that at all) then I'm sure she will find it a refreshing change to be with a boy who has just a little more on his mind than getting her clothes off at the first opportunity.

We were all 15 once, and I know very well that at that age I wouldn't have hesitated if I had had the chance - and I'm not going to go all moral about it... but do think about it carefully before you rush in. Sex works best when you know each other very well and have genuine, deep feelings for each other. It would be a pity if your first time was a disappointment simply because this wasn't the right girl for you or, worse, because it really was too soon in your relationship. And... is it legal at 15 in Canada?

Other than that - remember to take precautions, and... enjoy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008):

I had to study that one a bit - I guess you mean 'etiquette'?

If she's been there before she'll probably consider it an honour to pop your cherry. Just tell her that you're a virgin and that you'd be honoured if she were to do you the honour of popping it. She could be quite educational.

In basic terms, object 1 goes into hole 1 and goes out and in a few times until object 1 spews forth a gungy substance often referred to as spunk. You may have noticed this phenomenon following a wank. 'Bashing the Bishop' if you will. Same conclusion, different route but with tits to suck upon and arse to grab as well. Generally a pleasant experience. I'm sure you'll get the hang of it in time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008):

I had to study that one a bit - I guess you mean 'etiquette'?

If she's been there before she'll probably consider it an honour to pop your cherry. Just tell her that you're a virgin and that you'd be honoured if she were to do you the honour of popping it. She could be quite educational.

In basic terms, object 1 goes into hole 1 and goes out and in a few times until object 1 spews forth a gungy substance often referred to as spunk. You may have noticed this phenomenon following a wank. 'Bashing the Bishop' if you will. Same conclusion, different route but with tits to suck upon and arse to grab as well. Generally a pleasant experience. I'm sure you'll get the hang of it in time.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008):

Why in the world would you want to get sexually active with a girl who "puts out a lot." She could be covered in sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). If this girl is stupid enough to be so slutty at such a young age, what makes you think she'd be smart enough to protect herself - or you - from getting STDs? Have you even talked to her about getting tested for STDs? Have you even thought about it? If not, then keep your dick to yourself until you are mature enough to address issues like STIs. Oh, and pregnancy. I'd bet this girl is too stupid to see about birth control. Are you ready to be a daddy, little man? If not, keep it in your pants.

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