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writes:A mans love for a woman, or a womans love for a man.When people proceed to endure a relationship, why do they do it. What is the deciding factor that keeps us trucking the long haul. Why do we love. All these questions are simple but complicated.How do we know when the one has come along? What mental, physical and emotional traits do they have? Does your current other have those? Should you try to instill them upon your other, or should you leave them be and let it run it's course?Why do we continue to hold on when we feel as if there is no hope?In the beginning of some relationships, everything is perfect. It seems that nothing at all can possibly ever go wrong. But then someone catches strong feelings before the other. And being so worried if the other feels the same way is what drives them away faster. When do you know that it is time you put thoughts into words and words into action? What gives you that confidence to tell them you love them the first time? And also why is it that all these feelings diminish slowly over time, to where it becomes more habitual than genuine. Why does this happen? What brings you out of this rut to move forward.Pride is a definitive factor in love. Love is suppossed to be not what you make it. But pure, true, and genuine all the time. Not the half hearted "I love you" and hugs and kisses that do not cause the spark.Or is the spark the problem in the first place. The spark ignites the flame. You don't want to turn the flame into a blazing inferno because you will get burned. But constant slow and steady flames are boring and lose it's air after a while.So how is the greatest question answered? with metaphors, opinions, little tid bits and tips on how to keep the flame ablaze?I want to find out if you date in order to find your mate. Or do you date just to stumble across your mate. Or do you not have a plan and you are just a care free person when it comes to relationships?
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reader, xcharlottex  +, writes (26 June 2009):
I don't think people are looking for "the one" anymore, I don't think there is any 1 person for someone else, some people are just more compatible & I suppose the easiest way to "not get burnt" is to love without ever expecting in return, throw away your pride.
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