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writes:I've been in a great relationship with this wonderful man for the past three months. He has his imperfections and I do too but overall we seem to get along pretty well. I am close to falling in love with him and I feel that he is too. The only thing is that right now I am at a point in my life that I am transiting from college to real life. I don't start my real job until October and am currently living off my savings and pretty much struggling to survive. No places want me for a temp job and my moral values are too high to allow me to lie to them that I will be there permanently. I have not quite been the best I am or the person I've wanted to be. I haven't talked to my parents in a while because I don't want to break to them that their proud daughter is struggling to make a living and might need their help. I know in 2 months this will change thanks to my new job but at the moment I am so disappointed in myself. I don't know if it's fair to keep the guy around even though he's willing to. I am not happy myself - how can I make him happy?What should I do in this situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (27 July 2012):
 I think you are being way too hard on yourself! There is no need to end a relationship just because you are struggling for money, at the end of the day all relationships go through good patches and rough patches, and this is just a temporary blip which will be sorted in a couple of months time.
If you let him go now, you would only regret it in a couple of months when your job is sorted and you are happy again. I'm sure the relationship can survive the next couple of months and then everything will be back on track again.
You really shouldnt be disappointed with yourself, the economic climate out there is tough and you have done amazingly well to get a job lined up for October! Many graduates have to wait months and months, if not years, before they get a graduate job. Whereas you will only have been out of college a couple of months and then you are straight into a job - this is fantastic! Be proud of yourself, not disappointed!
I really do think you should talk to your parents and tell them you are struggling, and I promise you they wont be disappointed with you. They will be proud of you graduating college, and very proud that you have a good job lined up for October. They wont want to see their little girl struggle to make ends meet while you wait for a job, so they will be happy to help you out for the short term.
Its not like you are just a bum sat around all day who cant be bothered to work, you are just an honest person who doesnt want to lie to get a job and that is commendable.
Time to be honest with your parents, ask for help and dont feel ashamed because you are doing incredibly well for someone your age in this economic climate.
So speak to your parents, get the help you need and dont let the great guy go, otherwise you will only end up regretting it. Keeping something good in your life while you wait for your job situation to sort itself out will keep you happier, imagine how miserable you will be if you didnt have your boyfriend and no job until October!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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