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writes:For almost three years, I have been dating this man. Sometimes, I think there are no moments more perfect than the ones I've had with me. He cares for me deeply but on the flip side, he's reluctant to share a life with me or admit that he does love me. I understand why, his life has not been easy and love has been even worst on him. There's 15yrs difference between us but our upbringings are very similar and we've witnessed our parents's destructive marriages etc. I love this man and it kills me to think that he's so set in his ways, he just won't give us a proper shot at a life together. He told me that if I ever left him, he'd simply be alone. Why? Why does he choose this? He's an encouraging man and when we talk of the future, he always seems to encourage me to go somewhere else...away from him. But then, we miss each other so intensely when one of us travels or get wrapped up in work that it's practically painful.I love him and at the same time, I hate him for giving up before anything begins. Is there any convincing him? Do I walk away? Reply to this Question
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (17 August 2012):
 I don't know about him but alot of people are not trying to commit especially if they did before and it didn't seem to work out well why commit when you can be single and carefree and don't have to stop this do that type mess all this control compromise make it last its easier to be single and do want you want who you want when you want how you want. don't have to figure out what they feel about you or anything we well I already have 100 problems you know the rest and I don't have time for wasting my time like these past Years since 08 til present
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 August 2012):
 My opinion is that this guy - who's age must be between 33 and 36 - has found a hot teenage girl who has fallen for him.... (and) he is uber-content to enjoy her favors (read: "s*x") for as long as he can... before she catches on that she is being used for his macho enjoyment and sends him on his way....
Your's is a classic plaint.... happens frequently... so you are in good company...
BUT, the "bottom line" is that the ODDS (of you and this man having a successful, warm and loving relationship) are pretty long....
Good luck
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