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*assie918
writes:Hey people..ive just found out that my boyfriend cheated on me. he lives like 4 hours away from me but i didnt think that he would do that. at first i found out the he kissed a girl he denied it at first and then admitted it and apoloigised and he said he would do anything like that. i love him more than anything in this world so i took him back. 5 months later the girl rang me and was like are u still going out with him? so then i found out that they were still together for that 5 month period. he says that his sorry and he didnt mean i its the biggest mistake his ever done and that he still loves me. but i dont know cause he was with this girl and somehow still loved me?..the girl rang me and was like he doesnt want me he wants you.. i do belive that he does want to be with me and not her cause we have been through everything together. i mean i havent been a good girl as well ive had a fling with 3 people but that was in the first year and i told him about it. i would never do that to him now and he knows that. he even said that he trusts me and he knows that that was that was the past. weve been together for 3 years i love him more than anything. could you guys please help me?..what should i do..? do i take him back..?..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): I would not take him back. You said your unfaithfulness were flings right? so not full blown relationships, just a hook up im assuming? Well thats wayy different. He lied about kissing her, he lied about seeing her... he will probably lie again. Ive been through a similar situation and I know it sucks and its hard to hear but you deserve better...
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reader, Twistedbaby420  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 Honesty and trust are two of the most important things to have in a relationship.
It sounds like your relationship is lacking both, and it has been from the beginning. First with your infidelities, and now with his. Since he says he trusts you, we'll focus on his mistakes.
He denies the kiss initially, then fesses up and says he wouldn't do anything like that again. Fast forward five months later and you find out he's been seeing this other girl the whole time?
I would break up with him. Things probably won't get better, this sounds like it is just the beginning of a never ending cycle.
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