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writes:Should you ever give a controlling boy a second chance? I was with my bf for over 2 years, and just recently I broke it off with him. I love him and that was the hardest thing i've ever done. I miss him, but I had to do it because I was living my life for him. I didn't do the things I liked or wanted, everything I did depended on what his reaction would be. I lost all my guy friends... and now I want to live MY life. I know he loves me and he cant help it, he says he's changed and he'll do anything for me. I miss him and my heart is broken too. Towards the end of our relationship Idk if he just took me for grantid or what, but he wasnt very nice and made me feel guilty for EVERYTHING I did that wasnt with him. I still miss him though. Should I give him a second chance? Or is it normal to feel this way? Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 August 2009):
 He will do anything for you? Okay, ask him to kill himself. Oh, he won't do that? Then that shows just how little meaning his words have doesn't it? No I am not saying that he should have to kill himself to proof himself but that him saying he will do "anything" for you, sets of an alarm bell for me.
He doesn't have to do "anything" except no longer be a control freak. So why doesn't he simply say that? Because the abusive type (and control is a form of abuse) is always very good at making up. No, they will never do anything to hurt you again and they can't life without you etc etc.
And the victim falls for it because... well to be blunt because they were suckered in the first time so they probably never learned to tell words from actions.
So, forget what he is saying and look at what he is doing, has a he really changed how he behaves, NOT TO YOU, but to others around him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): How long ago did you break up. If it's not long then the way you are feeling is totally normal.Look he can't have changed that much, in a short space of time. If he will do anything then ask him to wait and live your life see what your heart wants but give it time.
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