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writes:ive recently just split up with my boyfriend and ever since ive been really upset not just because he left me but also because i get the feeling i scare my boyfriends away. My parents are very strict so im limited to certain things, a few of my ex's have left me in the past due to this and also because i have been told i take things too seriously and i committ too quickly, am i in the wrong to be this way or do i just pick the wrong type of man?
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reader, debbie-lou +, writes (5 August 2010):
I completely know how you feel! The besy way to get over somthing like this is to surround yourself with friends. My mum always tells me if you go looking for love you will never find it. you won't find the right bloke when your at your best looking in a night club. It will be in the supermarket with your hair up and in your sweat pants!! Try not to be too hastey in new relationships. Remember you have commitments with family and friends to think about too. or if you do what I do...Back away from the phone! let him call you, trust me he will!
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reader, Lebanese  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 glad to help:) good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to say thankyou so much the advise really helped, especially from Lebanese as you know exactly how i feel and felt! thankyou thankyou xxxxxx
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reader, karyn1990 +, writes (5 August 2010):
hiya men dont like things to be too rushed they like things to bed taken slow, they also like to think their in control of the relationship but dont let them pressurise you into doing something you dont want to. As for you parents your old enough to be able to make your own disions and relise what the result could be maybe sit down and explain to them you need a life or you could start hating them you need your own life.
As for rushing into things maybe you should slow things down and one day you will find the right guy and when he comes along you will know so dont worry at the moment just enjoy being young free and single x
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reader, cocoqueen88  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 yes you might scare them away. if your parents are that strict just wait until you're older. and a lot of younger girls have a real commitment clamp that does scare guys away. so just chill out.
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reader, Lebanese +, writes (5 August 2010):
Honey, we have so much in common.
I totally understand how you feel. My parents are so strict as well. I 'scared' away many guys because of them and their limitation. And ever since my parents 'scared' away one of the most guys i ever liked, i started distancing guys unconciously, before getting any serious. As you, another problem was that i commit too quikly. This also affected me, since most guys look for fun and just fun.
Anyways, now in college i met some interesting guys that have no problems with my parents being strict, which opened my eyes to see that the guys i dated were the problem. So, just accept your parents restrictions and slowly they will loosen. And just wait, a good man will come soon and he would be understanding and wont be scared away! Trust me!
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reader, Kenj +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Its probably your just not compatible. Dont rush in to any relationship unless you are 100% sure its always better to take time and get to know the other person better.
If they left you then they could not have truly loved you for who you are.
Just keep trying and one day you will find someone who will stick arround and appreciate you for the person you are.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Picking up the wrong guys.
If your head is screwed on good, guys who just want to get in your pants without being committed you, will leave. Because you want to be serious, and they want to keep you for well, you know.
When the right guy comes who shares your parents values for a relationship, they will not be so hard.
Ask your parents what kind of man would they had in mind. You don't have get one exactly, but it may give you some values to look for in a guy, and avoid the runners.
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