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*lice0110
writes:Ok so basically at new years me and this boy were both very drunk and ended up kissing, nothing else happened. Neither of us mentioned it again. A month ago, one of my friends had a house party and me and the boy were amongst a few others staying over, nothing happened until we were about to go to sleep, when I ended up speaking to him. This lead to us kissing and he asked me if I thought there was anything between us, to which I replied I don't know. We Exchanged numbers and ended up meeting in frees at sixthform. I started to really like him and he did too despite telling me he didn't want a relationship. Today, we met up and went for a walk then back to his, we spoke and ended up snuggling on his bed. We then started kissing and doing things jokingly with each other, he knew how I felt but he had said he still wasn't sure. He suddenly just asked me to leave, I felt confused, you don't lead a girl on and do things if you don't want her? Now he's saying he doesn't want us to text as he's confused, I just need to know how he feels even though we have grown close and it will break my heart if he decides he doesn't like me. Do I move on and always wonder what might have been, knowing that it will hurt me or do I wait and see what he says, knowing that he might change his mind or just lead me on further? I'm confused and the worst thing is that I genuinely like him and wan him to like me too. I said I wanted him to be happy with or without me but I can't help but feel sad that it might not be with me
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reader, alice0110 +, writes (12 April 2012):
alice0110 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits just the way he keeps giving me mixed signals, i ask him to make a choice and he says he doesnt want a relationship, yet a few minutes later he'll be saying he doesnt know. i guess its the feeling that i know we would be so right for eachother thats making me cling on.
getting over him, although we were never officially together will be hard, so i only want to do it once, yet i know that if i accept it now and 2 weeks down the line he says he wants a relationship, i'd be there despite everything
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): I started to really like him and he did too despite telling me he didn't want a relationship-
Guys only say that to girls they aren't that interested in. I'm sorry but it's true. He probably stopped the sexual activity because he knew you liked him too much.
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Sorry sweetie, but if he truly, genuinely liked you, and wanted to be with you, you two would have been in a relationship.
He just put it in the nicest way possible by saying he "doesn't want a relationship." Even though he said he likes you back, his actions say another thing.
I know you like him, and you want him to like you, but you can't force him to like you. That's beyond your control.
So try to let it go. Otherwise it's very likely that you might find yourself even more disappointed.
One last thought- it's possible that he was put off at the beginning by you when he asked you if you thought there was anything between the two of you, in which you replied "I don't know." It's possible he felt rejected initially and perhaps that set the tone for the rest of relationship between the both of you.
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