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writes:I'm a really shy girl, and have an extreme crush on a teacher at my school. To be honest it's become an obsession, only those who i trust know about it! Everytime i see this teacher, i can't stop staring and go really red - Those who i've told about this, have really got fed up of me talking about him and just keep saying "get over it" but i really can't!I think of him constantly, which really isn't good as i lose concentration in my classes and soon i shall be doing my GCSE's...I used to have him for a subject last year, but unfortunately i don't anymore - which is typical, i never even fancied him then! I don't see him very often and sometimes as an excuse i'll just go to his classroom with my mate [who he teaches] and she'll ask him just a general question like "could you explain this homework to me" and of course i'll be there with her, and just be glaring into his eyes! I try not to make it too obvious that i like him - but it's worth it, to get a glance at him.So basically what i'm asking is i desperately want him to notice me and perhaps even have a conversation with me, i'm just too shy to start talking to him! I really like him, he's twice my age and is so gorgeous. I know 'him and me' is just a fantasy, even so i'd be so happy if he just spoke to me once in a while! How can i get him to do that?
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reader, estc girl  +, writes (12 November 2007):
lol thats hilarious, im in the same situation and i do have classes with him and im really outgoing but hey- u should try to ask him questions like hows the new year going, i miss having a really great teacher you sould just joke around and even though ur shy ull get used 2 him and hell get used to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): I am in the same situation...I am in love with one of my teachers, and I had her last year, when I hadn't realized my feelings yet. Over the summer and right when school started, I couldn't stand not seeing her, so I slowly started to build a friendly relationship with her. I started stopping by after school a couple times a week to say hi and ask how things were going. As she got more comfortable with me I started coming by more often, also during my free periods, and I began running errands for her and helping her in her room. I know nothing will ever happen with her, but I am enjoying the time with her. We are close, not romantically, but being with her makes me happy.
I would suggest doing this same thing, if you are really interested in him...just remember that nothing will probably happen romantically. I was really nervous and shy when I started visiting my teacher, but with time it got easier. Forget about the shyness and just be yourself. Offer to help him make copies or ask him what's going on in his life. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): hiya,
when I was about 15 I too had the same feelings, I felt like he was IT. he was my science teacher when I was 13. I know exactly what you're feeling and you won't care what anyone says you just want to 'see' him whenever you can..right ? and after you see him he's all you think about.... I used to try flirt with my teacher and do those same things. I'm 30 now and back then I liked him for about 2 years.. it felt really real to me. Then school ended and I didn't see him anymore. He never reciprocated and thank goodness !! cos I had no control then and I respect so much that he never did when I look back now because all I wanted was him and deep deep down I thought he JUST might too - some men can be like that and he knew I fancied him and was always 'hanging' around being flirty. So he was great now that I'm an adult and realised that 2 years was just a high school crush instead of on a boy it was my teacher ! You just like the unattainable and you will probably like guys like this for a long time now.. the ones that are impossible to get ! so just keep and eye out for that, because it might be what you're drawn too and it's better to date guys that are not so unattainable and want to be with you as much as you want them, it's easier than trying to nab a teacher ! but you should feel the way you feel now about a guy too down the track.. don't settle, but just don't love guys you can't have or that don't reciprocate cos you get used to it by having these feelings for your teacher.
It's just natural because you're 'coming of age' I actually saw this teacher the other day on my way home from work ! almost 15 years later and he's SO not my type at all ! It's just so funny to me and look back and remember how much I liked him and now I would never even consider him as a romantic interest and I possible could date him at my age and status ! yet I never ever would even want to !! I even think he's icky.. now.. hehe. It's just the way it goes as times change... good luck and don't feel odd about it because it is ok ! Enjoy seeing him but don't make him your whole world and best wishes with finding a guy you feel that way for in the future who can give it back !
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reader, mizc22  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 be creful and dont do anything crazy, a crush is fine, but at 13 dont worry about grown men focus on school, we dont want to see this teacher on the NEWS
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reader, nologo  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 It's quite normal for students to have crushes.However, in most cases such feelings fade away.My opinion is that tween years are for learning whereas teen years are for socializing.You are a shy girl and that means you do not socialize enough."I know 'him and me' is just a fantasy, even so i'd be so happy if he just spoke to me once in a while!"Your teacher will not reciprocate, because his job should be understood as a commitment.
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