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writes:hi,Will first off i am really shy. its always been hard to talk to girls i like. I always hide how i feel. About 6 months ago i started talking to this girl i worked with. We then started dating and dated for 3 months. We started off slow and both of us not knowing what to do. then we started kissing and talking more and more. I worte her a letter with my feelings and didnt hide how i really felt. Later that week she broke up with me. She said that when he read the letter she couldnt say that same about me. She still want to be friends. At work she dosent really talk to me or really seem like she want to be with me, but after work she is different she more opened with me and talks to me and wants to be with me. When shes at work she talks to this one guy and its seems like there just friends but i am not sure if something is there and that why she broke up with me. I am not sure what to do, do i be her friend and hide my feelings for her and hope that she comes back, or see what happens I just dont know what to do or how to act.
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reader, Aunt Lou Lou  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 I think the best thing you can do it play it cool. Nothing is scarier than having someone really full on with you when you are not in the same place. If you want to remain friends with her, I think for now you have to do just that. Plus, if you aren't sure whats happening with the other guy, it would be best to keep your distance. You could tell her that you have thought about things, and even though your letter wasnt a lie, you much prefer to keep her as a friend as you enjoy her company. you never know what may happen. If you spend more time together as friends, things may develop in their own time. My advice is to hang in there, play it cool, and be the friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): It sounds to me that she is unsure of what she feels & i think you should just be her friend. The only problem is if you stay around her and you are still in love with her will you ever get on with your own life or will you just wait around hoping that she will come back to you?
This may never happen & you need to get on with your life and find someone who can love you as much as you love them.
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