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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I need some advice on what to do. I was seeing someone from work for about 5 months. He left 2 months after we got together and i left a month later. We were a tight group at work and we both still see the gang we worked with regularly. At first we kept our relationship a secret but now everyone from work is aware of it and appeared very supportive of us as a couple. The thing is we had our first bit of drama a few weeks back and he ended things. It ended on okish terms and he did text the day after he ended it and asked if i was ok etc. He also said he would like to remain friends but realised that might be difficult for me. The drama was around my ex boyf causing trouble. Not my fault but i understand why my guy didnt want the hassle. It also came out that i was expecting a lot more from the relationship than he was. Anyway its over but he was the one wjo ended it. A girl from work is having a party she text and invited me i assume hes going too. The thing is the guy has worked at our old place for over 5 years so was really close to everyone. I worked there a year. I did get very close to them in that time but do feel if anything they are more his friends than mine. I would love to stay friends with them as they mean alot to me but i'm not sure what to do for the best. Do i go to the party or make up an excuse?
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reader, shna  +, writes (23 November 2013):
 Of course you should stay friends with these people!! But i would hold off on the party just for the minute you guys are still freshly broken up so you need a bit of space from one another even if you do have the same social groups you dont want to be looking over your shoulder and getting upset if you see him talking with another girl ... Or worse bring another girl !! Dont even think about txting him an asking if he is going !! Its only going yo make u look like your freaking out and thinking about the situation to much you want to come off care free !!Just simply txt the girl back and say sorry u already have plans with some girl from work but you will do a rein check an u will defo be at the next event !! That way your having your own space from your ex but still keeping in contact with your friends !! X
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