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writes: I have had a crush on a girl for about 6 months. Last night we fooled around while drunk. The part that really gets to me is that after this she invites me to sleep in her bed with her. We cuddle, she plays with my hair, rubs my arm and we generally do cute, loving things to each other. The problem is I have a girlfriend of about 5 months whom I have had an amazing relationship with. No problems at all except I had to move for college so I won't get to see her much until winter. What should I do? Either I forget about this and go back to just being with my girlfriend. Or, I can try and pursue the girl from last night whom I've had a crush on for a long time. She knew I had a girlfriend before last night and so I would probably have to break up with my current girl to pursue this new one.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 I think you have to follow your heart. If you think the relationship you're in now is going nowhere because of your future plans, you need to give this new girl a go. You say you've fancied her for a long time so you can't let this chance pass.
Do you know this girl from last night wants a relationship? Just because a girl will jump into bed with you, doesn't mean she wants to be your girlfriend! Anyway, if you talk to her and she does, maybe you should give it a go, if you think she's serious about giving it a proper go.
I do feel bad on the girlfriend you have now though. She's done nothing wrong and has been cheated on. If you choose to stay with her, you must tell her what happened and she can make her decision from there.
I think this is a big decision. Think long and hard before you do anything and make a decision and let both parties know before you cheat again. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): I noticed that you mentioned that you have had a crush on this other girl for six months, and that you have been with your current girl for five months. If after five months of being with your current honey you still have feelings for this other girl, I think you'd actually be doing yourself a favor if you broke up with your girlfriend. You'd be doing her a favor too! No one wants to be in a relationship where they're what the other person settled for, you know? And why should you have to settle? If you aren't completely satisfied with your current girlfriend yet, you won't be any time soon. You've had feelings for this other girl for even longer than you've been with your girlfriend! It's worth exploring. Just make sure that things with your girl are completely over before you do decide to go exploring. I think you know what you have to do here. You cheated on your girlfriend with someone you've had feelings for for a while now. You've done something that you can't take back, and I think you'd be happiest if you moved forward. What would you say to a friend who asked you this question? Don't cling onto a relationship that isn't working out entirely when another girl is in the picture. I hope this has been of some help. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything works out okay for you in the end. Take care!
~RJGirl
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