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writes:Is it true that guys go to bars and clubs only to get laid? I just talked to a guy, a friend, and he said that the only reason he goes out is to get laid that night. He said, it's the cheapest way to have sex when he wants it and the fastest, because around 2 am girls drank enough to become more agreeable, and though it doesn't happen every time of course, 1 of 3 attempts results in sex. Then he also told me that sometimes when there is not much option is left he can even go for a girl who is not that pretty at all. He said, it's better than nothing. All this sounded very unpleasant to me. The part about him not even caring about physical attraction to a girl is just making no sense. If it is a physical action how he doesn't even care of he likes a person. He has to kiss her, caress her and at the same time he thinks that she is ugly??Is it like a common thing with guys to look at sex like that or is it just this particular person?. He was trying to assure me that all guys re like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2014): If that is what he likes, what is wrong in that? He is not hurting anybody. He is not forcing anybody. Romance is overrated. I won't even call it love because many of its aspects are not compatible with the notion of genuine love. And no matter how much we have progressed in our views about sex we still have a lot of hang ups about sex. There is nothing unpleasant about what he does.
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reader, Melanie0517 +, writes (3 November 2014):
This is normal, many guys do this, many easily admit to it. Have you ever been to a club? Clubs are worse than bars, you can easily tell just by how the men treat you that all they care about it sex. I will not go to clubs, they are disgusting places. Bars are a little more forgiving, some guys go in there alone just to drink. I've gone to a bar alone to drink. There is a difference between sex and love. Some people are able to take the person completely out of the act. Literally all they care about is to come. He probably wouldn't kiss her, or caress her. He wouldn't care to please her. Good thing is, it's not normally hard to pick out the gross ones, they are unable to hide their grossness. Some guys just go through a phase of having sex with anything that moves, around your age. It is normal, but no, not all guys are like that.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 November 2014):
 Some are like that and will pay dearly.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 November 2014):
 Some guys are like that. Yes. I have had male friends who would "screw" anything with a pulse if they were single. ( I had a female friend who was like that as well) SO it's definitely not just guys.
I do think a some men/women go to bars/clubs for an easy "score". Getting a ONS (One Night Stand) at a club/bar is easy. ANYONE can do it.
I worked as a bartender in a nightclub and there WAS a race for some people to find a willing sex partner and get out of there, and for some reason they would ALWAYS come back and hit on us bartenders if the "target" girl didn't take the bait, while they zeroed in on the next "target"... and if they had ABSOLUTELY no luck by 2-3 am, they would go to another bar/club .
I don't think ALL guys are like this though. Just the ones who aren't looking for a GF/BF but still wants casual sex. Looks isn't everything. You know the expression "butterface"?
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