A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hey guys i need some really reeally really good advice here coz i need ithave u ever felt that ur girlfriend is just too good for u to the point that u would even think that she may cheat on u ? im not a bad looking guy but the problem is not here,my girlfriend is so cute and so pretty ,kind of girls that attract people in the sreet. and i dnt know for some reason i just feel that wayi mean i know that she loves me and she even had way better looking exs ( im nt sayin that lol but its the girls who think there hot ) sometimes i just feel like what if one day she just get sick of me or even the way i look when i get older or something idk stuff like that.. i just wonder ,do girls really at some point think how their boyfriends are lookin like even tho they ' love ' them ??i know this sound crazy but i have no idea how to make it right ,its just the way it is but i hope u understand my pointthnx in advance A LOT Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): I'll say this to you. I have a few very good looking guys trying to date me. However I'm madly in love with a guy who, in the words of other girls, is rather plain and nerdy. And guess what? He doesn't even look at me, or if he does he doesn't show it.
What I mean is that beauty is NOT always the factor that makes us attracted to someone. So if your girlfriend loves you (which I believe she does) she won't trade you for anyother guy whether he is george clooney or whatever. Don't worry.
A
female
reader, Supreeya  +, writes (3 September 2010):
Hey, women who are in a loving relationship will love you and want to be with you even if they have the opportunity to be with a brad pitt look-a-like. thats because a persons personality is half of the attraction. it sounds to me like you may be a little insecure, stop comparing yourself to her ex's, cs they are her 'ex's' for a reason. she is with you now. maybe you should talk to her so she can offer you some reassurace, and tell her whats on your mind.
...............................
A
female
reader, maverick494  +, writes (3 September 2010):
I currently have a 'crush' on a guy who you wouldn't give a second look if you'd pass him on the street. Looks-wise he is just really really average.
But he's just so much fun to be around. He's funny, quick witted, confident and he doesn't whine. I always look forward to seeing him again. Now, I wouldn't want to give any judgement about my own looks, but I am pretty content with what I have.
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that though looks certainly matter, you can easily attract people if your personality is attractive. Doesn't mean you should be a slouch, but if you take good care of yourself, dress nicely, look comfortable with yourself, people are going to notice you. You don't have to be a walking Calvin Klein ad to impress a girl.
There's obviously something about you that attracted your girlfriend. Don't insult her judgment by getting insecure now. Stand up straight and tell yourself you do deserve her, because you do.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): Looks and attraction to a person is not always the same thing, and even if looks is how it started out that is not why you fall in love with a person. If you are vocal to her about your concerns she may get tired of having to constantly reassure you. Remember she is with you because she wants to be, be happy and enjoy it, stop looking for problems that aren't there,
...............................
A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (3 September 2010):
 If you love someone, their flaws just sort of become invisible. She wouldn't have fallen for you if she wasn't attracted to you. It's just going to drive you crazy if you try to decide whether or not you're more attractive than her exes. Obviously if she's with you now, you are to her.
...............................
A
male
reader, MixedPrime +, writes (3 September 2010):
Hey buddy,
Girls are like guys in the sense that they want an atractive partner, thats as far as the similarities go. The cause and meaning of that attraction is completely different.Your a guy so you know what guys look for, enough said. Girls want confidence #1, so you need to boost that; just being honest. Not cocky, but look at how long she was with them, it may have just been a passing moment. Have you been with her for a while? Look for the things that you have besides model looks(In the end they could care less) that are better. For instance, I was a ladies men in looks, made good grades, and could play the game. "Relationships lasted for about a month." Now marriaged with children, confident in my relationship, my wife, and myself. Yet had to change my outlook on life with her help and put this woman first."Movement by myself force when were together." Looks like your doing this, very important. Next show you care about the relationship by doing your part. HIT THE GYM, never let up on improving yourself. DRINK WATER and EAT RIGHT, stay healthy and help her do the same. DONT BE POSESSIVE, let her have her own life, and don't worry about others guys(dont let them disrespect her though, she still wants to feel loved and protected) Dont try and push or ensure your spot at the center; she already has you there. All you will do is cause her to resist. (leave, cheat, grow angry, hurt, etc)
Mostly importantly respect her, and don't disrespect yourself. Stay 100% man, yet remember she is your equal.
And remember girls dont want a pushover, sob, or worrier, they'll take a confident jerk over that. Be easy, love conquers all.
...............................
A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 Well, yes we all do it to a degree. If you are a candidate for the fashion police then she might dump you. You should always try to look your best love or no love.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): That post sounds like it could have been written by my boyfriend, he thinks exactly the same as you do. To answer your question,I get asked out a lot but I never even see it as an option; the answer is no without a doubt. I think my boyfriend is the most wonderful, sexy, handsome, gorgeous guy out there. Maybe to some people he isn't, but to me he is. Why is that? Because I LOVE him. Just like your girlfriend loves you. You have nothing to worry about.
...............................
A
male
reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (3 September 2010):
Have you ever heard the saying “Love is blind”, Real love is. You said the problem is not with you…Fact is…It’s all you.
You are trying to feel what you think she should be feeling. If she didn’t want to be with you, she wouldn’t be. If you keep telling yourself that she should be with someone better that you…well, guess what?
What makes you think anyone out there is better for her than you? What do other guys have that you don’t? I don’t mean things you can buy in a store, I mean inside you.
If we based our relationships on looks alone, then there will be no need for love, bounding, and feelings. These are what separates us from the animal world.
GOD forbid, if something was to happen to her looks, and she is no longer sooo cute. Would you dump her? Or would stay with her because you love her?
...............................
A
female
reader, MeAgainstTheWorld +, writes (3 September 2010):
Look, I'm female and i have a boyfriend who i love beyond anything in this world. Now, i have boys asking me out daily and i have girls saying to me 'why do you go out with him. hes ugly. To the boys i just say look i have a bf so no. to the girls i say, do you what I'm glad you think that. To me my boyfriend is the sexiest, good looking and most great person that could ever be. I so agree some girls cheat all the time but if shes LOVES you and i mean deeply it wont even cross her mind. Relationships are built on trust. I think you should just trust her and everything will work out. x
...............................
|
