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Do dildo's hurt?

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Question - (20 August 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 18 September 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:


I really need your help

I get orgasmic when i rub my pussy but i am too scared to use a dildo up me does it hurt and and how can i masterbate so i can orgasm good



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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008):

Me and my wife have been married for 19 years and have 2 kids. After the 2nd the sex start to drop off and be came the same thing over and over. So one night about 3 years ago i ordered a dildo and one night when we were fooling around I told her had a something new for her so I lubed it up and gave it to her. We now have a number of set toys I use on her and she use herself. It was the best thing that happened to our sex life. She is will to give BJs and we start some anal play on her.

The orgasms she gets are out of this world.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008):

Hi Lou,

As a male with a curious girlfriend, my experience with dildos is to start with something manageable and work up to something larger (if that suits) If you get orgasmic with a lesser sized dildo, then stick with it. As they say, if it's not broke, don't fix it.

Having said that, my girlfriend likes to feel stretched, so a larger dildo is needed but we worked up to that.

How about trying the vegetable route to begin with. Put a condom over a non-threatening sized courgette or cucumber and see how you get on together. Then you'll have a cheap way of finding which size you're looking for.

You don't say if you get nice and wet, if you do, no problem but if not, have some lubricant handy to ease things in. Hope this helped.

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A male reader, pyan Australia +, writes (30 October 2007):


I bought the first dildo for my wife over 20 years ago, it was hard plastic. she didn't think much of it and we only used it a bit. then i bought a black soft one that she would use and we got very good use from it. Over time she got use to it and it didn't make her cum. a few years ago i got her a rabbit. she loves it. you should get on eof these and try it but make sure you are wet or use some lube. when my wife goes away with work she will take it with her and use it. well worth having a go

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (21 August 2007):

love-him agony aunthey bbe, av u already had sex? iif u have and are well lubed when you use the dildo then u will be fine, n if you arnt then just stop.. u are in control. I hope i helped, mail me if u wanna talk x x x

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A male reader, Sandman United States +, writes (20 August 2007):

Sandman agony auntSure a dildo can hurt if you use one you're not prepared for - like the Fat Man Mega Dong Dildo which is 8" long and whopping 10" round! Or even the Homo Gigantus Giant Dildo which is 15" long and 11.5" round - WOW! I can imagine that trying to insert something like those into your pussy might not feel all that well, initially.

Since I don't have a pussy, I'm not knowledgeable on what it feels like to have something inserted into it - however, I can say that only you know your body and what makes you feel good. You discovered that rubbing yourself a certain way made you cum, so I'm sure that once you start playing with dildos that you will discover what makes you cum when using them too.

There are special toys that are curved to hit the g-spot when you use them. There are toys that have "rabbit ears" attached to them so that when you are dildoing yourself the rabbit ears vibrate against the clitoris to increase pleasure and stimulation.

Start off small - a rather mild toy to begin with so you aren't intimidated by the size. Get to know your body all over again. Then you can graduate to the "advanced" toys and really get your rocks off.

Oh by the way, some women (according to the reviews) LOVED the two dildos I listed above stating they have never cum so hard before. I am sure, however, that they too had to graduate to being able to use those large sized toys for pleasure.

Hope this helps.

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