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klein
writes:So...I recently have become single. I have a much younger male as a friend (he's 22, I'm 42). We have known each other for a very long time. Since he has gained knowledge that I am "free" he's been acting a bit different. Very protective, flirty at times, making sure he pays attention to me.I invited him over for dinner to discuss some business issues and he offered to cook for me and there were some flirtatious email exchanges. I guess I thought he was interested in me. He came for dinner, and it was, well uncomfortable. He was very, very nervous, wouldn't take his coat off, went and sat in the corner of my couch and continually fiddled with stuff, wouldn't let go of his cup. I think I made him feel uncomfortable, which wasn't my intention and I didn't want to make any first moves and be a fool. Did I scare him? Do you think he's interested? Should I bring this up with him or leave it alone? I don't want to ruin the current relationship we have, but I think I may already have.
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reader, klein +, writes (25 March 2008):
klein is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAsk oldersister...Well, I guess that says it all. And, yes that is what I want to do. But, not sure on his part and I certainly wouldn't want him to avoid me like the plague if it's not. Will find out today. Seeing him this afternoon. Asked if we could get together.
And let me just say, no, I really am not that bold. Just seem to have found this side of myself since leaving the husband.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (24 March 2008):
 I wouldn't apologize, why apologize for wanting to fuck him?
There's nothing wrong with you being the aggressor with a much younger man, he's probably fantasizing about it already and you sound pretty bold, I love it. I would keep doing what you are doing because it sounds like he's just nervous as hell. Good luck to you!!
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reader, klein +, writes (24 March 2008):
klein is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your reply...I just hope I didn't freak him out. I did send out some of the signals, low-cut shirt, sitting next to him on the couch, but he didn't bite and he was so fidgety I didn't dare. I will say that he didn't have a problem keeping long eye contact when talking with me. Just an example of an email exchange: I asked him what was for dessert? (kiddingly) and his reply was that Dessert was inevitable and he could whip something up. I think you may be right, I just don't want to force myself on him, as we do spend lots, and lots of time together in our hobby and semi seasonal work environment. I really do like this guy, but like I said, don't want to scare him off. I feel like I did something wrong at this point and need to desperately apologize to him!
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reader, guillaume  + ♥, writes (24 March 2008):
Hi,
From what I can read into here, this guy sounds like I was many years ago. I think he just plain fancied you and just had no experience of what to do. His age shows this and he probably spent the whole evening wondering..."should I, or shouldn't I?" He couldn't make out what to do so therefore played safe and just "hid." Next move for you is to suggest the cinema and see if he agrees. I think he will but he will probably need you to judge the right time to make an intial move. My opinion...he's very keen but needs a few pushes!!! best wishes, G.
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