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writes:I'm a married women and have been in an abusive and miserable marriage for the last 15 years. I met another married man and spoke for about an hour. It was very unexpected. I was outside smoking and friend called me over to ask me a question. Next thing I knew I was outside talking to this guy by myself. We had nice conversation actually talking about our marriages. When I was ready to leave he walked me outside and asked if he asked for my number would I give it to him. Well I did then asked if I'd go to dinner and what food I liked. Well he walked me too my car and asked me not to wake up in the morning and think of him like I think of my husband because he is a cop and married. I have trust issues with husband. I'm being no better but longing for a friendship. Anyway he shook my hand goonight and said he would get in touch with me. Well this was Saturday and he text me on Monday. Met up with him for two hours and he asked alot of questions regarding how I feel about my husband. Wanted to know that if I found out that my husband never cheated would it change the way I feel. I said there's been years of lies and that I'm done. I said that I just want peace and not to be bothered. I have 2 teenage kids and asked if I moved out would I take them I said of course. He has 3 kids. He even told me that he couldn't stop thinking of me. We were gonna see each other that Wednesday but he forgot it was his wifes birthday so asked if I could get out Thursday. I said I would try and for him to text me. Well it is almost saturday and no text. He even text me after I saw him Monday fir two hours that he was looking forward to seeing me.He also asked if I would have a trust issue with him because he is doing what my husband probably did. I said we are both married who am I to not trust him. He said he never looked at it that way. I don't understand why he said those things to me. I really thought he was sincere. He was a gentleman. I am disappointed in this. I haven't contacted him but would love too. Please someone help me understand what happened. Did he have second thoughts, is he testing me. Please I know I only just met him but he was cute and I actually had something to look forward to. Any advice thanks sorry soooo longost
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (5 September 2009):
 I would give him a great big miss because...... He forgot it was his wife's birthday? That would make him a bit of an asshole wouldn't it? Isn't he treating his wife the way your husband treats you? Why go from one uncaring partner to another, even if it's just a brief affair? You don't need that. Don't fall for that "I can't stop thinking of you" crap, that's a line that married men come out with because they know it's a winner with lonely women. Save youself the heartache and get out of your current situation first, (you'll gain confidence and self-respect from doing it), and then find someone who will treat you with respect and courtesy. Good luck. :)
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