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female
age
51-59,
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writes:Im confused, I met this guy about two years ago at work, he is 29 and i am 40, (i have been told i look younger), it was a fixed term contract, we clicked, we seemed to get on so well and I began to become attracted to him, but never let him know, because he is a natural flirt and seems to have loads of women friends, however I knew he liked me also. He complimented me, respected me and always asked how I was if i never came into work (he made me feel special).After six months of working there the contract came to an end, however we did keep in touch, he invited me to he's son's christening and I would invite him to places if I had an event going on.He has a partner and a eight month baby and I have a partner with two children (9 years old). I only ever had been with my partner and no one else.Anyway, about five months ago I was offered a job and told him, so I invited him and a few others out for bowling. The others couldn't make it, so it was just me and him left to go. we never went bowling, but ended up going to some club. We played pool, we drank and we chatted but something else happened, we just sat there and without saying anything our feelings came out, we just sat there looking at each other. I never felt like that before, i truly felt that he liked me and I liked him alot.He then asked me to dance and we ended up kissing on the dancefloor, I told him I liked him and he said the same and we left it at that. We then met up about a month later and went out, nothing happened, but then we met up a few weeks later and did have sex and met on a monthly basis. We would communicate via facebook and I told him that I missed him and had feelings for him, thats when he told me that he liked me and enjoyed spending time with me, but nothing could come out of it and in the long run he hoped we would be good friends, even though things were rough in his relationship, he wanted his son to have what he didn't and have both parents. I told him that I was also in the same boat and was also very unhappy in my relationship and would be happy to be friends with him also. However, the problem is he no longer emails me and I always make the first move before he does return my emails. I still like him, but i am confused, i feel rejected and used, but i need to know did he ever really like me or just wanted me for sex? Should I ask him? I need to know before I can move on.
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reader, dearjohn83 +, writes (17 April 2010):
It seems that he likes you but his commitments to his family is more important. Maybe you should see this as a sign that you need to do something about your relationship? Think of it this way if it wasn't going to be this guy it probably wouldve have been someone else. Try and get into the frame mind that 'who knows if it was a different time different situation it could have worked'. Dont email him again and try to view it as something special that happened once but won't again and that you had fun. You both obviously needed each other at that time but its time to move on and decide what you really want to do with your relationship
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reader, Babatunde Arogundade  +, writes (17 April 2010):
Arrange a date and give him the best of you then ask him this question
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reader, weparley  +, writes (16 April 2010):
Of course ask him. you're 40 years old... why not ask?
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