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writes:Is it possible to have a guy have such strong feelings for you, that they dont know what to do with them and they end up just running away from it all? Especially when this person feels like they always need to be the tough guy and it's hard for them to deal with actual reality. -I dated this guy for a while and after a while he told me he was in love with me. he said I was the first girl he'd ever actually been in love with. He said I was always on his mind. Then in Feb. He out of the blue broke up with me. Now, he tells all my friends that i was always on his mind and he just couldn't handle it. but, he still loves me...Soooo what does that mean...?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 Oh yeah, that makes perfect sense. And he probably didn't ask you out because he didn't know what to wear. And he didn't call because he got ran over by a truck as he was crossing the street, with cell phone in hand, and he's lying in a hospital right now, trying to remember your phone number...except he's in a coma. Have you seen the movie "He's Just Not That Into You?" Well rent it and then quit making excuses for men who don't follow through. They don't follow through because they're not that interested and we have to stop making these lame assumptions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): My best friend's now husband of almost 10 years did this to her while they were dating. He basically broke up with her for 2 months because he was really scared of his feelings. He had never been in a relationship where he was contemplating being with them FOREVER and it was very hard for him to decide if that was what he really wanted. Two months later he came back, the dated another year and a half and have now been happily married almost 10 years and are one of the happiest couples I know. The advice that I would give is to let him find his own way back. She would be nice if he would call, but she didn't push towards him during his 'break'. She didn't try convince him how perfect they were together, etc. She gave him the space he thought he needed and he's told her and I multiple times over that made all the difference. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): It means he wanted to avoid hurting your feelings and not tell you the real reason he ended it because he knew it would upset you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 April 2010):
It means at this time he is nowhere near ready for a relationship, and probably didn't love you as much as he says.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 April 2010):
Unless he's THAT afraid of being hurt and just drops the relationship because of that, then I guess it's a possibility. But, I think that's a lame excuse and he's using that to hide his real reasons. He just might not be ready for a relationship or doesn't want one, but tries to turn a bad thing into a good thing. I mean, does it really sound logical to think, "Gee, I am so in love with this person I'm going to break up with them!" Yeah...doesn't make too much sense. But then again, not everyone is that logical. Like I said, it's a possibility, but I don't really think that's the reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): I guess it means he wasn't that into you but he still cared about you.
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