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writes:Well, here's the story: A week ago or so, I had a small get together at my house. I asked two friends of mine that are sisters to invite a few people that we know to come. Long story short, it started off as just us three girls because several of our friends had a hard time finding my house. Then two guys that I didn't know very well showed up (I knew they were coming) and the 5 of us sat around talking until the rest got there. I ended up spending the majority of my time talking to one of the guys. He said that he used to live in my neighborhood and knew my cousin growing up. We had a lot in common and got along well, even though he's two years older than me. He was really quiet and shy whenever we weren't talking. At the end of the night, the guys left and I found myself wishing that they hadn't had to. I really had a good time with the guy I talked to.We were already friends on a social networking site, so I messaged him the next day telling him that I'd had a really good time and that we should all do it again some time. He wrote back really quickly and said "Yeah, it was fun. I enjoyed it" but nothing else. Was he blowing me off? Did I come off too needy? And how do I get to know him better without seeming wierd?
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (20 April 2012):
Let's not jump to conclusions. He possibly had nothing else to say at that moment. Does that mean he's not interested? Not necessarily. It can go either way. Why don't you text him again?
Note that a shy person doesn't necessarily has to be unable to express himself. Some open up when they trust you and you're alone with them.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (19 April 2012):
 Just don't think about it. All you did was show interest in him as a friend. You may have enjoyed talking to him because you are still young and have not much experience talking to guys. He was being polite and making conversations with you. There was no spark, either because he has something else on his mind, or it's not the right time for him to develop a romantic relationship. He is not obliged to explain why he doesn't want to keep in touch with you. You don't have to wait for him. You can find other people to date. Some men are can be friends with the opposite sex, some can't. You said you are friends on a social network site but he doesn't sound like a friend to you. He is not someone who can express whatever's on his mind. I would say he is not an overly social person and was only coming because someone asked him to. It is possible to have guy friends but you need to know what types of men can do that, meaning having a social interest in females yet at the same time being able to separate lust feelings and friendship.
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