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writes: I was in an abusive relationship for two years, and shortly after I was diagnosed as being bipolar.....a result of severe emotional trauma by my ex. my question is, how do I tell the man I love about this, without judgement?? I'm scared to get close again to any man for fear those emotions will come back. pLease help. please please!!!
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reader, love.lover.heartbreaker.brokenhearted.  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 if they do not accept you for who you are then they are not worth your time. You are the farthest from unworthy, you are a great person and if someone can't see that then its not someone you want to devote a lot of energy too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both so much. It's really hard to swallow the fact that I do take medication for it, which has helped tremendously. there are few that know of this outside close family. unfortunately, I see this as a handicap, and become outraged when I think someone so physically and emotionally abusive could seriously mess up another person's mental health. i fear men everyday, that I'll find someone to love, not necessarily that he will hurt me again, and one day we'll have a long talk and I'll tell all. makes me feel unworthy, and there could be few who truly accept me for that reason.
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reader, love.lover.heartbreaker.brokenhearted. +, writes (12 July 2010):
surround yourself with many friends who will support you and watch over you. make them friends that are really just friends and become closee to them, reach out to talk to them and be with them. build a strong support net, and once you do then go talk to him about it. that way you have people who can help you and take care of you already there and around you. don't go into this alone. but things will be ok, just keep holding on and moving on with your head held high
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 This diagnosis does not have to be a life long one. Google up people who cured themslves with seafood diet, native and spiritual healing. I am not a doctor, I can't tell you to go off the medication. Only you can do so at your own discernment. Doctors are there to assist us, but we are the masters of our bodies. There are times when doctors are absolutely necessary to save us but accepting your diagnosis as final is like giving up your chance to live a healthy, normal life. I know it's important to give a good impression to people but you have to be honest if you are dating. Honestly I will spend my time focusing on my healing and think about dating later. The causes of bi polar is still unknown. Most think it's a biological disorder but recently more scientists have found that it could be triggered by sexual or physical abuse in the past. Medicine only helps to stabilize your condition, you have to believe that you have the power to release the past so you can love without fear again.
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