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writes:i have recently been divorced which i did not want its tearing me apart my lovely wife moved away i know the district but not an address i love her so much what can i do i'm sure i'm suffering from depression i do nothing else but cry all day and night help
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reader, findel  +, writes (2 March 2008):
My sympathies, i know how you must feel cause i feel the same. i didnt know we are so many....Hope it will work better for you and every one of us
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst of all i would like to say thanks to all who replied to me Thank you.
Also i was married for 45years we had our ups and downs like everyone else some my fault and a little her fault.
I've moved out once or twice but she always asked me back but this time she didn't and took the bull by the horns and moved away and as i said i dont know where.
So the answer to have i spoken to her about it, no not knowing her address or phone number, i only know the district
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (14 January 2008):
 "i have recently been divorced which i did not want its tearing me apart my lovely wife moved away i know the district but not an address i love her so much what can i do i'm sure i'm suffering from depression i do nothing else but cry all day and night"
A very difficult place to be I've no doubt. I don't know the extent of your situation, but I do know that dealing with a break-up is extremely difficult.
I know EVERYONE hates hearing it but you need TIME to heal. I hated hearing that when people said it to me and I know it doesn't really help. Unfortunately, there is no magic formula to just switch off your feelings and move on.
I've said it before but getting to know someone and falling in love, and the fact you were married too, was a gradual process, being apart is too.
If you're depressed or even if it is "feeling sad" (as sxcarshalz puts it), I'd recommend you seek out a counseller and talk to him/her about it. I was sceptical at first, having NEVER sought therapy before even though looking back I could've done with it.
It's been 2 months since my break-up and ok, we weren't married, but that doesn't mean it's been easy.
Take a look at my article I wrote on here about how I've been dealing with the break-up and how I've been coping. I have to say it's really worked for me and thought I'd share it with everyone. You might be able to use some of the ideas in there?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Like you, I too fell into a bit of a depression, had trouble eating, sleeping, my motivation at work dropped, my motivation/enthusiasm outside of work dropped. I couldn't be bothered to do anything anymore. I felt like I was lost and nothing seemed to matter anymore... EVEN my own health and well-being!
I hope the article helps and let us know how you get on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): Go to the doctor and get some help. You are very much in need and I can see it because I had a nervous breakdown when I got divorced. Anti-depressants helped and I am certain that you need to talk to someone as well. Call the Samaritans for some advice initially as soon as you read this and follow what they say. The number for your area is in the phone book
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): I need to know more.. does she still love you? Have you spoken to her about this? Why did you's divorce?..
I think you should go out and try to move on, meet new people.
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reader, sxcarshalz  +, writes (14 January 2008):
firstly theres a differce between depreession and being sad. depression is not only when you cry or the time its when you dont care about anything anymore even yourself you also tend to loose your social life because you dont want to see anyone. if you are suffering go see a docter and get anti depression tablets you can also see a consouler and try and see if it will ever work out between you and your wife. Also no that your family and friends are all there to helpo you through this dont be shy to talk about it to anyone.
good luck
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