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*ndywills07
writes:ive had a crush on my best friends ex for a few months and im starting to think there might be something between us but im worried that if i start dating her then my best friend make think of it as a conflict of interest and i want to stay friends with him, PLEASE HELP ME!!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (17 November 2007):
 Talk to your best friend about it. Just say " I need to talk to you... I've started having feelings for ______. I felt that I should speak to you about it because I don't want this to make a mess of our friendship.
If he feels that he wouldn't want it to happen and you are the good friend that you should be, you'll stand by your friend as you don't want to hurt his feelings. If however, he really doesn't mind, then go for it and ask her out.
The problem I see arising from asking her out though is that you will feel that she will get interested in your best mate again... If he's a decent friend, he won't even think about it, and if she's a decent girlfriend, she'll ensure that you know that you're the only one she wants.
This relationship has a LOT of risk involved and a rocky road ahead of it, if you're prepared to take the risk and your friend doesn't mind, then go for it... but be prepared. If you do start going out, you're both going to have to work at ensuring that the other person in the relationship knows how you feel.
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