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writes:Basically, I fallen in love with my cousin. He tells me he feels the same and wants to spend the rest of his life with me.We didn't grow up together and I only met him once when I was a teenager - we live in different countries and I am now in my forties - he is in his fifties.We began talking about six months ago and I am planning to visit him early next year.He split from his wife about eighteen months ago and I am in a loveless. marriage. My husband seeks his entertainment from outside of our marriage and has done for a number of years. I knew my marriage was over even before I made contact with my cousin.Guessing people will say that we have fallen for each due to our broken relationships - but I have always had a place in my heart for him from that time that we met over thirty years ago and when we started talking and I told him this - things grew from thereCan this work for us - we want this so much, I don't have anyone that I can talk to about this and its eating me up
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reader, crazyy001  +, writes (16 November 2012):
go ahead I'm sure you both with find happiness together since you guys related I'm sure if you guys have kids they will be so confused and will ask questions or they gonna be retarded
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 November 2012):
 who's moving to be with who?
does your husband know?
when are you leaving your husband.
see if you want it to work you need a bunch of things:
honesty (with your spouse who is still entitled to the truth no matter how much you hate him)
FREEDOM to be together... either you need your husband's PERMISSION to screw around on him or you need a divorce. UNTIL you secure ONE of those it will NOT work....
thirdly: you've been talking for 6 months... you are going ot see him in 3 months that's 9 months... how often will you be able to see each other after that? who will be giving up their home, their job, their friends, and moving to be with the other...
in order to make this work you need to be available... (you are not) and you need to be TOGETHER (you are not)
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reader, ineedyou  +, writes (15 November 2012):
 Is he your first cousin? Because in some countries relationships between first cousins are frowned upon. If you are second cousins or even further related then I should say it is socially acceptable for you guys to date.
Still, I have a few concerns specifically about the part where you say he lives in a different country: so, what's the plan? One of you is going to move abroad? How often would you be able to visit? Are you sure you're not jumping in this relationship because you feel lonely? Don't you think you should first divorce your husband, take some time for yourself, get to know this man better and then, maybe, start considering a proper life-changing relationship with this man? Think it over, don't rush it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): You are the best judge of your situation. You need to draw a list of pros and cons what if the relationship dont work what are the implications? Do you have kids? The impact this will have? Why are you so long in a loveless marriage? Information too vague to advise.
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