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writes:my boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 months now we met at a prison that I work at. In the beginning he went behind my back and was texting his ex girlfriend knowing that it was not cool with me.so we moved passed it and have had minor issues since then.A problem for me is he has a lock on his phone and he refuses to take it off (mind you he has rightfully lost my trust) and when I come around him and he's on his phone he will either put it to sleep or make it go back to the main screen as if he was not even on it even if he's just looking at pictures. We came close to breaking up about a week ago, but we decided to just take a break for a few days and then stay together in the same house and try to work it out. I really do want to work it out with him I really do care about him and I feel like he cares about me. He does a lot for me physically and emotionally, for my son as well whom he loves. Could we have moved too fast jumping together and is there any way to reconcile this relationship and make it last as long as we wanted to I have trust issues and it's causing us problems because of what he has done but I want to move forward and make it last. Any suggestions anybody?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have trust issues as in, I always feel like he's talking to other women or going to see them. Hes a sweet man, I just feel like we jumped in before we were both ready and now we don't want to lose each other.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 May 2013):
 You've been dating him for less than 3 months.
In that time, the so-called 'honeymoon' period, he has texted his ex-girlfriend, refused to give you the password to his phone, hides whatever it is he's doing on his phone when you show up, had to take a break and now you are here asking what could help you move forward.
Have you considered that maybe a girl with trust issues shouldn't date a guy with secrecy issues?
I'm sorry, but in the first 3 months of dating, "small issues" shouldn't even arise. You two should both be on your most bonding behavior.
What are your trust issues and why do you have them?
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