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anonymous
writes:If someone you were with for two and a half years had lied to you and cheated on you the whole time with many different girls, could he have liked me at all? After having been broken up for 10 months now, why does he pretend to want to be friends? Reply to this Question |
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reader, hlskitten  + ♥, writes (26 July 2008):
 Because hes a control freak and wants to be able to know that he can still keep you as a mate. Gives him some weird warped idea that you would still be interested in him. Which only you know if thats possible. If someone lied to me at all, let lone for as long as a couple of years, i wouldn't want them as a friend.
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reader, domino21  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 If you were with him that long. He very well did care for you. But sadly he had no respect for you. I dated a cheater and he cared but not enough. I noticed cheaters do usually care for one person more than the rest but they still learned no respect. I've also noticed that all the cheaters I've run across dont have a strong family situation. So the morals of being with one person didnt really stick with them because of their situation. Its not necessarily always the case but thats what i've come across a lot.
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reader, baby duck +, writes (26 July 2008):
 He is a "user" ... a "player" ...
it takes less effort for him to woo you, a person that gives more love and respect to him than she does to herself, than it does a new piece of meat
You deserve better. Stop imagining that his brain works like yours and that you can reason with him, if you say 'just the right words'. I am not saying that he'll always be a predator. One day, some woman just might yank his heart out and put it through a meat grinder. I'm just saying that you already know how he is with you, and he's not going to change for you. Learn your lessons, cut your losses and move on ...
to a man that is more evolved and deserving of your affections. But before you do, stay alone for awhile ... research your past behavior and learn why you tolerated abusive behavior and how you can change yourself into a woman that attracts, and is attracted to a decent, healthy, loving man.
You can do this!
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