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writes: here goes, my confession. its been a long troubled relationship, we met when i was 16 he was 18 we had a daughter a year later and held it together, BUT we both had different lives, seperate lives,we have always been in love in a strange way. i wanted a bit more from the relationship than him, he didnt want to tho, he stopped bothering with me and i could almost see the bitterness to me he never seemed to want to be with us so any excuse and off he went pub,work just out he was nasty and controlling when he was at home i was very lonely and confused at 17 and had an eating disorder i think because in a year we met i got pregnant and we moved in together, i do understand we were both young. then i started going out 2 and so it started, i cheated, got confidence and behaved like a single person until enough was enough and we broke up. it appears we cant end this. i love him so much and we are equally responsible for this mess but we desperatly want to make this work and have grown up so much but would it be wrong to after cheating on him he doesnt know, but i assure u im punishing myself enough i feel guilt, regret, unworthy u name it if i give him all i can this time round and love him right, could i forgive MYSELF !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Nobody is perfect. This happeneds all the time. You only did it because you weren't getting the attention at home that you needed. Put in the past and move forward.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (13 February 2009):
 Honey, you need to concentrate on yourself and your child. Partying and all that jazz means nothing in the long run.
The only one who can forgive you is you. It might not happen overnight but eventually you will understand what you did and why, hopefully you will gain an understand of your own behavior and learn from it.
If you truly want a relationship to work is takes a LOT of work and effort not only from you but from him too. Families are "easy" to make but require a lot of maintenance to run smoothly.
If you carry around all this emotional baggage you will never be able to be happy, look thru those bags and once you feel you can leave the contents in the past - let it go and move on. You can do it:) It is possible.
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